[ENTJ] ENTJ + ISTP Relationship

ENTJ + ISTP Relationship

Hello Guest! Sign up to join the discussion below...
Page 1 of 4 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 36
Thank Tree25Thanks

This is a discussion on ENTJ + ISTP Relationship within the ENTJ Forum - The Executives forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Okay so I have inundated the ISTP subforum trying to figure out this insane non-relationship that I have this ISTP. ...

  1. #1
    Unknown Personality

    ENTJ + ISTP Relationship

    Okay so I have inundated the ISTP subforum trying to figure out this insane non-relationship that I have this ISTP. We have been involved for about a year now. It has been the weirdest involvement that I have ever had in my entire life.

    Usually I don't get in so deep with someone that I can't walk away when I am ready. And, usually I am in the driver seat of my relationships. Well, no way Jose' in this one. He's been in the driver seat since day one.

    And, no matter how many times I tell him I'm done with him...I let him come back. WTF? I can't get him off of my mind either. Usually, immersing myself into projects and or new goals will help me to get over anyone and move on. But, not this one. He has really gotten under my damn skin.

    It has been the most off/on, push/pull, hot/cold involvement I have ever been in. I'm not sure of his Enneatype but I am leaning toward either 6w7, 7w8, or 8w7. Also, when he took the test he split 50/50 on Extravert/Introvert. He acts more like an ISTP than ESTP though.

    Has anyone else dated an ISTP? If so, want to compare notes? Because I'm baffled as hell. Or, if anyone based on MBTI/Enneagram knowledge have any insight concerning compatibility?



  2. #2
    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Are your 'tellings' direct and to the point? or subtle 'clues', and 'hints' ?...if they're like me subtle may not even appear on the radar.
    There are times I need to be hit with a big clue bat upside the head to get the hint.
    n2freedom thanked this post.

  3. #3
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by vt1099ace View Post
    Are your 'tellings' direct and to the point? or subtle 'clues', and 'hints' ?...if they're like me subtle may not even appear on the radar.
    There are times I need to be hit with a big clue bat upside the head to get the hint.
    That's a very good question. I would say both.

  4. #4
    ISTP - The Mechanics

    Quote Originally Posted by n2freedom View Post
    That's a very good question. I would say both.
    Both could be sending mixed signals or they're interpreting a positive and putting a huh? signal with the other.

    For me when I've had to take myself out of situations with those few that burrowed into me (and it sounds like they did) I've had to avoid all contact, put in time and distance and even then shades/shadows still lurk in the corners....but it did ease the sharp aches.

    that's just me though..
    SeedofDavid thanked this post.

  5. #5
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by vt1099ace View Post
    Both could be sending mixed signals or they're interpreting a positive and putting a huh? signal with the other.

    For me when I've had to take myself out of situations with those few that burrowed into me (and it sounds like they did) I've had to avoid all contact, put in time and distance and even then shades/shadows still lurk in the corners....but it did ease the sharp aches.

    that's just me though..
    Thanks. I'm at a lost how to navigate this situation any more. SMDH. I just don't get him but I do get him. I know that doesn't make much sense. Trying not to throw in the towel but it's kind of hard not to given the circumstances. :(

  6. #6
    ENTJ - The Executives

    Believe it or not this ENTJ has 48+ years going with an ISTP . . .

    . . .and we are never bored with each other. He is totally brilliant in his field and smart enough to take me as I am. I cannot do his "thing" and he cannot do mine. . . ever. We created two super kids neither of which gets either of us but calls it our "dynamic".

    I so can never change him and he isn't likely to think it worth the effort to change me.

    I have long conversations with him that clarify my thoughts and he may occasionally actually hear.
    Last edited by etroth; 01-02-2012 at 07:22 PM. Reason: multi tasking. . . not well.
    VroomVroom, n2freedom and Qaellech thanked this post.

  7. #7
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by etroth View Post
    . . .and we are never bored with each other. He is totally brilliant in his field and smart enough to take me as I am. I cannot do his "thing" and he cannot do mine. . . ever. We created two super kids neither of which gets either of us but calls it our "dynamic".

    I so can never change him and he isn't likely to think it worth the effort to change me.

    I have long conversations with him that clarify my thoughts and he may occasionally actually hear.
    Thanks for sharing. I really enjoy the ISTP personality and would love to meet one that we are on the same page at the same time. By far, at least based on him, I think the ISTP personality type will suit me well. Unfortunately, in this case we are not on the same page as far as what we want from one another.

    I appreciate your sharing... :D

  8. #8
    ENTJ - The Executives

    not sure what "on the same page" means to you but I found that all other types are seldom, if ever, where I am. Just my nature I guess. I must respect and know my chosen is smarter than either of us, kinder, and full of integrity. We have no problem with which leads as it is a given, I do. He seldom follows but it works for us to walk our life journey side by side. His utter focus on one project at a time can drive me nuts but that is about me. He is true to type. Intimacy holds us really close because if he is going to do something he is going to do it right ;-)

    Good luck with your experience. . . hoping you make that connection that fulfills your very high ENTJ expectation.
    n2freedom thanked this post.

  9. #9
    ISTP - The Mechanics

    then why fight or analyse it? just run with it ...
    etroth and n2freedom thanked this post.

  10. #10
    ENTJ - The Executives

    EXACTLY what my ISTP says. scary. . . .
    n2freedom, turmauge, SeedofDavid and 1 others thanked this post.


 
Page 1 of 4 123 ... LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. [ENTP] relationship with ISTP?
    By calysco in forum ENTP Forum- The Visionaries
    Replies: 32
    Last Post: 11-08-2013, 08:21 PM
  2. [ISTP] Have any of you ISTP's been in a relationship or dated someone that was an ISTP
    By The Mighty Quyn in forum ISTP Forum - The Mechanics
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 08-28-2011, 09:08 AM
  3. [ENTJ] ENTJ and ESTJ relationship
    By missvicious in forum ENTJ Forum - The Executives
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 06-12-2011, 04:51 PM
  4. [ENTJ] Relationship advice for an ENTJ
    By MisterD in forum ENTJ Forum - The Executives
    Replies: 24
    Last Post: 04-25-2011, 01:48 PM
  5. ENTJ: Relationship Resolution
    By Grey in forum ENTJ Articles
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 01-30-2010, 02:15 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:29 PM.
Information provided on the site is meant to complement and not replace any advice or information from a health professional.
2014 PersonalityCafe