Your Experience with Fe Users

**NastyCat** · 04-04-2011 04:03 AM

I'm friends with a few XXFJs, and honestly, that Fe is pretty annoying. From XXTPs it's not that bad as they're generally tertiary or inferior positions, but it does show up sometimes.

The thing that I find annoying is how they enjoy projecting their values onto everyone else. Fe users can be extremely unreceptive if you don't act in the norm that they've been exposed to.

Most of my issues were with 'broken' IXFJs who think I need to be serial dating or to be in a relationship to be happy. They don't seem to understand when I say that I'm happy with being single since I'm currently living a rather unstable lifestyle at this moment. They don't even realise they're also giving me a clear view of what's going on inside their heads.

My version of Facebook involves smacking a thick textbook into my face. That is how I wish I'd react whenever I encounter this.

**ohTOMICho** · 04-04-2011 10:29 AM

Ooo...

Sad face.

**Dear Sigmund** · 04-04-2011 12:03 PM

Projecting values and projecting emotions. A strange "if........then...."clause. If I feel this way then you must also feel this way. Again I agree with Nasty Cat in regards to its the broken ones who are most guilty of this. Its OK OhTOMICho, you are obviously not one of the broken ones

Also we hold back a lot. What people observe is often just the tip of the iceberg of whats going on inside our heads.

**NastyCat** · 04-04-2011 06:01 PM

Originally Posted by ohTOMICho

Ooo...

Sad face.

Awww! You're not included unless you're broken! One of my closest friends is an INFJ, and she's completely fine (probably because she's happy and not broken at all).

IXFJs that kinda annoy me grew up with a lot of fear, so they have this tendency to follow what others have done to see if they can be happy. I don't hate them or anything, but they don't seem to truly realise that everyone's different.

**Vanitas** · 04-04-2011 07:07 PM

I'm very cautious in dealing with Fe.

The thing that I find annoying is how they enjoy projecting their values onto everyone else. Fe users can be extremely unreceptive if you don't act in the norm that they've been exposed to

Yeah. I don't remember exactly, but function wise iinm Fe is 'demon' (8th) function for ENTJs-- it invokes distrust and caution. I associate Fe with emotional blackmailing, myself. Very negative, yeah, but it's as if they demand you to care and/or be nice (or be good); according to the values and the set of rules they think as absolute. As something 'so obviously universal' and you're just a jerk to 'rebel against' that set of values.

As if it's incomprehensible that you just don't.. well, agree.

**ohTOMICho** · 04-04-2011 07:18 PM

[QUOTE=NastyCat;1160105]Awww! You're not included unless you're broken! QUOTE]

Oh, you're just saying that because I spoil you with candy and whatnots.

**SyndiCat** · 04-05-2011 03:32 AM

Originally Posted by NastyCat

I'm friends with a few XXFJs, and honestly, that Fe is pretty annoying. From XXTPs it's not that bad as they're generally tertiary or inferior positions, but it does show up sometimes.

The thing that I find annoying is how they enjoy projecting their values onto everyone else. Fe users can be extremely unreceptive if you don't act in the norm that they've been exposed to.

Most of my issues were with 'broken' IXFJs who think I need to be serial dating or to be in a relationship to be happy. They don't seem to understand when I say that I'm happy with being single since I'm currently living a rather unstable lifestyle at this moment. They don't even realise they're also giving me a clear view of what's going on inside their heads.

My version of Facebook involves smacking a thick textbook into my face. That is how I wish I'd react whenever I encounter this.

That's Fi (xxFP and xxTJ).

Fe bends over for you, and your take on morals and appropriate behavior.

If an IFJ corrects you it's because you're being systematically illogical according to him/her (Ti). Just like I'm doing right now, correcting you according to how I've perceived analytical psychology as Jung wrote it.

I, as an IFJ, would never try to correct your values, because I don't have my own values. I follow your rules every day.

**NastyCat** · 04-05-2011 06:16 AM

Fe is drawn from a group (or applied to one), so when it's one on one chat, the Fe person will be inclined to projecting the perceived 'norm' to that one person. It's their way of maintaining societal values. Fi is used for setting or clarifying the values for one's self. Both can be projected, but Fi users will typically phrase them with something along the lines of "I think..." or "For me, it's...", whilst Fe users will general apply some form of 'group speak'. The latter is more annoying.

**SyndiCat** · 04-05-2011 07:02 AM

Never heard of. I'm not a health IFJ, so everything that comes through my Fe is profound shit, in order to make people dislike me. If I want you to like me I'll simply nod and smile like a clown, bend over for you so you can insert it into me.