[Cherryiezz]

According to the personalitypage.com, "....ENTJ's natural partner is the INTP, or the ISTP. AN ENTJ's dominant function of Extraverted Thinking is best-matched with a personality type that is dominanted by Introverted Thinking. The ENTJ/INTP match is ideal, because it also shares the common Intuitive way of looking at the world, but the ENTJ/ISTP match is also very good." My questions are:

Have you, or are you currently, dating an ISTP? If so, how was/is it?

Would you ever date an ISTP? Why or why not.



Any insight would be appreciated

[Vanitas]

I kind of did, once. I think as long there are common interests (something to talk about/ to have activities in/ etc), it can work well. It kind of give the impression of 'coming down to earth', though. There will be 'realms' that can't be shared (outer space, just next to the Sun for the ISTP, permanent residence on Earth for the ENTJ), and maybe each will need 'supplements' in form of friends and separate circles. So a lot of space, communication and trust.

Both are deadpan-logical though, so talking/ the communication part can be.. arranged. Ask the ENTJ to come up with a system.

In all, I'd try again.

[Kr3m1in]

I do better with introverted feelers. Well, I generally have only dated feelers, mostly extroverts. But if I dated an introvert, they'd need an F. And probably an S.

In short, the only nt i could see myself going for is the ENTP.

There is more than enough ntness and logic in me. I need balance. I need a mess that is illogical and feely, so I could be all puzzled about it.
So no...

[The Proof]

I have dated an ISTP girl successfully, I only broke it off because of my hectic schedule, which was unfair to her, it wasn't her fault I'm a workaholic, so I didn't want to burden her with that; on top of that she went back to her parents every weekend, when I was free, so it was a bit of a scheduling problem.

She thought I was cold, occasionally, because I wasn't all needy and clingy like her former boyfriend, but she liked that I was smart, that I knew things about people and that I didn't judge her. One time I asked her to come watch cartoons, wearing pajamas and to sleep over, she said no because it was too early and I wasn't upset at all, this kind of understanding seems to be very attractive to girls :)

So yeah, it totally worked :) If I didn't take work so seriously and if she didn't want to go home every weekend we'd still be together and yes she is very very cute :)

unfortunately it's possible your ENTJ is not as good as I am, so YMMV

[soul215]

I am getting married to an ISTP in 2 weeks. We've been together for 3 years now.

PROS:
- We're both very in tune with how we think.
- We dont let our personal feelings get involve with any decisions we make.
- We both speak freely about what we like and dislike.
- We're detached emotionally so our relationship is mental.
- We solve our own problems without going to one another with a sob story. Issues? It works out on its own before we even blow a fuse.
- We're independent with our money.
- No jealousy, whatsoever.
- My ISTP man is the only one person I know doesnt question what I am doing and why I am doing it. He accepts me in a lot of ways.

CONS:
- Im a workaholic so my ISTP man would get grumpy when Im not around. He doesnt assume Im doing anything behind my back. He just wants some time for US.
- When we argue, he use really hurtful words to win the fight. He'll pick out one of my weakness and use it to make me feel LOW about myself.
- We're both always on two different subjects and we can bump heads lol
- He picks a fight once in a while, knowing that THATS the only way to get my attention. Then he fixes it because hes bored.
- He thinks more about whats happening NOW than he does the future while I plan ahead.

Pretty much thats our only Pros and Cons. Other than that, we're pretty good together haha

[Monkey King]

I have an ISTP friend from college. I would date him because he was mad fun to be around. We went into a conversation about happiness one time. He tried to take it apart and I tried to reconstruct it. >_> He got me into the conversation and once I've settled in it, he was ready to move on to another topic.

I'm not too sure if it'll work out for the long-term.

[soul215]

I have an ISTP friend from college. I would date him because he was mad fun to be around. We went into a conversation about happiness one time. He tried to take it apart and I tried to reconstruct it. >_> He got me into the conversation and once I've settled in it, he was ready to move on to another topic.

I'm not too sure if it'll work out for the long-term.

It will work if you have the patience. My man is like that too. When I start talking about something and get really in to it, he'll zone out and change the subject as if he was ignoring me. I made it clear to him that when he does that. He pushes me away. Why? Because it felt like he was ignoring me. My story was not amusing him enough or something. He finally realize it and now he would listen and when he does it again, Ill just slap him LOL.

I did mention the PATIENCE part because it will take a bit of explaining to get it into their head that its a bad habit to keep changing in between stories. We use to argue a lot about it because he says I didnt explain the issue nicely. I made it sound like an attack. When I get frustrated with something or an issue, I do tend to show it in my voice. The whole discussion was so simple but you choose to make me repeat myself like 5 times and you dont expect me to yell at you? hahaha. Well, now he knows to just either ignore me or listen. Obviously hes ok with my temperament because we're getting married in 2 weeks lol

[Monkey King]

@soul215 Congratulations!

Yehp, I only meant that he and I in particular, would probably not work long-term. That conversation is just one example how I cannot truly carry conversations with him for too long. BUT, he is really to fun to be around. So, I've kinda just put him in the "Good-times-chill-out" friend category.

Anyway, my dad's an ISTP. It would be interesting if I ended up with an ISTP later in life. LOL

[soul215]

@soul215 Congratulations!

Yehp, I only meant that he and I in particular, would probably not work long-term. That conversation is just one example how I cannot truly carry conversations with him for too long. BUT, he is really to fun to be around. So, I've kinda just put him in the "Good-times-chill-out" friend category.

Anyway, my dad's an ISTP. It would be interesting if I ended up with an ISTP later in life. LOL

Thank you :)
Im not that excited. I think its just a piece of paper. We had to do it for the military because hes leaving and he doesnt want to travel alone. He wants me to follow him. eh. lol We've been together this long and were pretty stable where we're at. I really dont want to start anything with someone new who might not even be able to handle my anger management issues haha --> Thats what my boyfriend calls it when I throw a fit.

We're pretty good as friends though. Lovers? We're getting use to it. We dated for 2 years straight and just finally called it official 2 years ago. Ever since things became official, our fights became official too lol. Your dad's an ISTP? Oh man. at least the things in your house is probably fixed constantly huh? This guy had me standing in the cold the other day and it was raining. He needed me to help hold the flashlight while he fix the car. Ironically... nothing was wrong with the car. He just wanted to move ONE thing. Just ONE thing but end up moving around EVERYTHING and taking apart amps and speakers. urgh.

[Monkey King]

Your dad's an ISTP? Oh man. at least the things in your house is probably fixed constantly huh? This guy had me standing in the cold the other day and it was raining. He needed me to help hold the flashlight while he fix the car. Ironically... nothing was wrong with the car. He just wanted to move ONE thing. Just ONE thing but end up moving around EVERYTHING and taking apart amps and speakers. urgh.

LOL yeh. He basically did all updates and retrofitting. Built the patio in the back and crafted a garden for my mom, plus built those gazebos for my mom (ESTJ). My mom told me their savings in construction cost for all the updates are in the 5 digits. The equity also increased by (don't remember what percent she said) x%. My mom wants an outdoor kitchen before my dad's work on the house is done. Until then his muscle car is waiting patiently in the garage.

I'm trying to get him to put it in writing that the muscle car is mine before my little bro' gets old enough to have some sense.