[NastyCat]

I don't know what makes me do this, but it may be my little Fi acting up with my Ni; I get extremely annoyed when people say they'll change for me because what they're doing upsets me. They then proceed to do absolutely nothing to work on it, and by the end of it, they just ask me to accept their negatives. I'm not talking about things like showing up late quite often.

The questions that run through my mind during such ordeals:
1. Was there ever a point for this person to tell me that the person whom I've been interacting with isn't like what I'm seeing? i.e. that they're actually better than what they're showing me (better = subjective)

2. Did they only ever say this to stop me from getting annoyed?

3. What's the point of GIVING me a set of expectations only to disappoint me by the end of it?!

One thing I dislike about sensors is that they tend try to come up with an immediate solution that only lasts temporarily. It's like putting a few bandaids on a huge gash; it doesn't stop the bleeding. It's as though they can't think of the impacts that such a change will have on THEMSELVES.

Slaves to the situation piss me off. These people tell me they have near-absolute control of their futures. REALLY?! Maybe materialistically, but not when it comes to dealing with people.

I think this is one of the major clashes between S and N, with N being crappy at living in the moment and S being less in tune with ruminating about ramifications.


GAHHHHHH! WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR ME TO NOT GET ANNOYED WHEN THIS HAPPENS?! It's like the cynical me goes down the drain...

[Azwan]

I'm thinking it's just a dodge to get off your back. Points 1 and 3 I dont think were in their thought process when they saw you get annoyed.

Generally, you're just pissed, aren't you? And this anger stems from the above situation concerning sensors? Sorry if I come off accusative; I'm just trying to understand.

As for your above question, of course I hate it. But then if we're talking character-wise and sweeping under the rug, there's nothing much I can do. You can't force a person to change; it has to cone from within. If it's anything else I demand that the problem be solved right away, rather than accumulating and then becoming a whole bigger problem. If the party involved is uncooperative, I will solve it on my own.

[Rachelishere]

I also went crazy when spend time analyzing n found out the person that I trust ( normally I trust ppl first) is a big damn liar!!!!!
I don't know why I think that I'm able to get the answer at the end, that's why I hate lies!!!!!
I hate ambiguity, kills me!!!!
Always don't know how to overcome this, I can't even look at that person any more, have the feeling that this person is the one will kill you first if they feel insecure.

I also find myself very loyal, n really can relate to Donald trump y he said he value loyalty above all.
U just simply have no more strength to look at the back while facing the war.
U need back up, need someone to look at ur back not kill u from d back!


Yes, I hate ambiguity!
Unable to solve problems!!!!

[Monkey King]

All bark and no bite makes me into a very indifferent person to the events of person's life.

The thing I've realized about people who are all talk is that they actually BELIEVE in what they're promising they'll do for you (or themselves) and actually BELIEVE they will follow through. Here comes the choice you have to make to not get disappointed:

1. Trust their words.

Or

2. Trust their words after you see the results.

BIGGER OR

3. Trust their words after you've seen CONSISTENCY in their actions which would then be the real result you want.


Big risk on 1, less patience is used up on 2 and 3 would require golden patience on your part.

I feel yah' v_v.

One of my favorite quotes regarding promises and expectations is:

"Promise only what you can deliver, and deliver more than you can promise."

[NastyCat]

Generally, you're just pissed, aren't you? And this anger stems from the above situation concerning sensors? Sorry if I come off accusative; I'm just trying to understand.

I like sensors, but the clash occurs unknowingly. Sensors are more concerned with the current mood and live more in the now, so these sorts of "quiet" clashes happen long before you realise it. I'm not angry; I'm just a little frustrated with the fact that it continually happens.

I'm also annoyed with myself because I always allow myself to be tricked even though my instincts immediately doubt them. Whether this trick was intentional or not, I would rather them to simply apologise without making promises. But as the saying goes, "you can't always get what you want".

You can't just tell people not to make promises they can't keep. For some reason they take this as a blow to their self-esteem. Even telling them to be realistic about what they're suggesting gives exactly the same effect.

Aila8, I love consistency. It's actually a rare find these days. Perceivers can be consistent by consistently wanting to explore or to keep things undecided and unlabeled. The kind of inconsistency I dislike is the sort where someone would say one thing, but then go completely against it later on or whenever it benefits them. Words and actions should go together -- this is something I firmly believe in after learning it the hard way that people can be oblivious to motivations behind the action or the action itself.

I doubt I've ever actually dated an iNtuitive before. Perhaps it's time to start looking to see what I can learn. booo

[Rez]

just say it already!

Stop beating around the push!

[NastyCat]

Ahahaha.

Maybe I should. If they can't handle it, they're probably not worth my time anyway.