[Rez]

how do you show that you care for someone?

[Mayfair]

Give them my time. That, or help accomplish things for them.

E.g. If a close friend is having financial difficulty, I'd help them make out a budget and talk to them about their options and ways of solving their problem, and nag them to stay at the problem until it's solved.

[Dear Sigmund]

By being reliable, loyal and honest. The lack of any of these can ruin a relationship.

[Vanitas]

By being reliable, loyal and honest. The lack of any of these can ruin a relationship.

That. But, I'll try to elaborate in the way I understand it:

- By listening, and actually paying attention,
- To make the effort to understand, so I know how to be.. more useful in their life, in order to make them happier/ better,
- And so I won't accidentally hurt them/ make them unhappy,
- Being there for them,
- Not breaking promises, not betraying in any sort,
- Respect them and the relationship enough to tell the truth, not just an easiest answer to make them satisfied.

[Dear Sigmund]

"Not breaking promises, not betraying in any sort"

ENTJ's dont make promises we cant keep. So if we are hesitant about a decision, its not because we dont care; its because we don't want to commit to something only to back out later.

[Vanitas]

Yes. Rather than breaking a promise, I'd rather not promise at all.

[Intermundia]

Caring for someone? LOL

[zskel]

Spending time with them, talking to them about anything other than tasks or project, trying to figure out how I can help them in their lives (this is a big one, if I'm giving you advise it means I care), just treating them the same way I like to be treated, by staying involved in their lives and always listening or helping them talk through anything.

[NastyCat]

Yes. Rather than breaking a promise, I'd rather not promise at all.

To date, I have been by far more reliable than all my exes. I've kept to my word, without promises, at a rate that's higher than my exes when they actually make promises.

And, +1 to pretty much all of the above.

However, I'd also like to include that I'm quite inquisitive. I ask questions whenever I detect that something's not right. Although I am not terribly good at recognising emotions (especially deeper ones which are often well-hidden and subtle), I am good at recognising changes in behaviour and other inconsistencies.

My tone also softens up considerably at times. LOTS of emphasis on the "at times".

[Martini]

I support them practically as well as emotionally. For instance:

- When my best friend was struggling financially, I took care of some of his debt and covered the expenses to attend conferences to present his papers without anything in return, as well as taught him how to manage money better. Now he's debt-free, happily married and really good with financial management.

- When one of my exes (INFP) came to me for help because her depression was out of control and she didn't know what to do, I made myself available 24/7 for her to come and talk/stay with me whenever she needed to, as well as set up a medical treatment plan for her. Nowadays she's not suicidal nor depressed anymore.

- My mom has been sick for the last two years and constantly in and out of the ER every month. If I wasn't at work/in class, I was practically living at the hospital to read up on all relevant medical literature about what her conditions so that I can actively engage in a discussion with the medical staff, ensure her treatment plan was the best it could be, negotiate down the medical bills, , as well as talking with her and bringing her favourite things (e.g. the Bible, fresh berries, flowers) to her bed.

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In everyday life, if I do care deeply about you:

- My tone of voice will soften with you...you'll get to experience the "F" side of me.
- I'll notice little things about you & remind you that I remember them in a subtle way.
- I'll include your feelings in my decision making.
- I'll make time to spend with you, despite the 235246345 ongoing projects I have.
- I'll put aside my own well-being for yours & protect you at all costs.
- I'll do my best to empower you, so that you become stronger & more capable alone.
- I'll help you realize your full potential...only if you want to; I won't force it.
- Most of all, I'll let you be yourself & unconditionally accept even your "flaws."

However, if you betray my trust repeatedly, you'll hear from me about it once & you'll be out of my life for good.


Is this enough for ya?