[ohTOMICho]

I also wanted to mention the fact that although I was the one who went in for the first kiss (on the cheek), he steered the direction of that kiss by tilting his head a bit and making me kiss him directly on the lips. That was embarrassing!

But I had to share that bit because I thought that was very ENTJ of him. Heh. He's also a very smooth talker. I don't want to be anywhere near him when he turns his full charm on because I always get those silly butterflies.

So yeah, I see ENTJs as the hunters on the dating scene. But they're so good at hunting that their preys don't even know they're being hunted until they're mounted over the ENTJ's fireplace. D:

[Monkey King]

@ohTOMICho you are making us look like softies. >_<

[ohTOMICho]

Whoops. Erm. These guys are badasses! Terrible people who hate cupcakes! Grr! >:(

-Winks at @Aila8, Pets @NastyCat-

[0O0O]

Okay, that explains a lot... but say if the girl was online on Skype/other instant messaging place and so were you, would you not write to her, even if you were interested? It strikes me as rather... odd. I mean, texting, calling or meeting someone -- it's all something you have to set aside time for, but if you're already online on an instant messaging place, what's the point in not writing? I usually use that as an argument whenever my friends say that he seems interested in me. So far, they've yet to come up with a proper response :P

Why do you guys do that? Are you waiting for the other person to initiate the conversation?

[Monkey King]

^ I may be logged on---- but I could also be away from my computer.

[NiDBiLD]

I don't date. I hunt and screw.

Usually I get attracted to people who can stand up to me and pose a challenge. If they are too easily persuaded, or if they are the ones approaching me, I lose interest pretty quickly.

When in a long term relationship, I become far too secure and settled. It's like "mission accomplished. What now?". It is like dogs chasing cars. They have no idea of what to do when they actually catch one.

I guess I would need someone who keeps challenging me actively all the time, and who can keep me on my toes in order to stay interested, and also to stay interesting myself. If I start grinding into routine and patterns from lack of stimulation and variation, the relationship fails.

[Pseudonimum]

Interesting. I'm an INTJ and can relate most of your experiences to myself.

[The Proof]

What is the ENTJ male approach to dating?
Do you move fast?
Does it bother you if your partner doesn't reciprocate their 'feeling' side verbally?[/I]

My approach is like "oooh hot girl *walks to the girl like a zombie* -hi! my name is ..., I think you're cute, if you're not in a relationship already we should talk and then if you like me we should go out" almost word for word

No, I don't move fast, I feel pretty intoxicated just holding hands/kissing, things happen when things happen, namely when it feels right, trying to rush sex is pathetic

No, I don't need the girl to say anything like that, frankly I'd rather have a cool T girl than a clingy F girl, although it's not fixed

I have been dating the ENTJ from the OP ... I find ENTJ men to be clingy and when they lose control they 'shut off' and make their partner feel bad

nah you just had bad luck with this one, insert coin!

-He organized dates to places and events he knows I'd appreciate such as art and flower shows despite his inability to wrap his mind around the fact that flowers and trees give me peace. >.>

Based on what he's told me about his Ex's:
-Er. Not much. He could barely remember them.

I don't know exactly what he thinks, but if he's anything like me, he likes other people's "stuff", namely what they're into, because he himself is pretty empty so he fills that void with what brings happiness to others. Also, he could likely remember his exes if he wanted to (e.g. in a court of law), but odds are you are 6-17 times better than the best of them, so there's no question he's into you.

[indiharisn]

I'm not a man (or an ENTJ), but my ex was. And all these things ring true. He was lovely to me, and I doubt most people who knew him would have recognized him around the house, compared to his usual forceful persona.

If he wanted something, he went for it. Very direct, though not pushy or clingy. I liked the directness. Since I'm neither intuitive nor a feeler, I can get very confused by the "dance." With him, there was no dance. He laid it out, I took him up on it, and for a long time, it was very good. (Heck, it's still good, just in a different way. Now he's one of my best friends.)

[snc1878]

I can relate to this. The woman who approached me in a mirror way that I approach relationships, and then acted like a huge bitch to me in response to my ENTJ like asshole tendencies (stubborn, not emotionally in tune, etc), is now my wife lol. Tread softly.

Interesting. I had somewhat the same experience with an ENTJ and do you think going anywhere? We had an intense first meeting, talked forever, bantered, had some new experiences (and I got a bit too tipsy and went home with him). But he said he had a great time and great meeting me and was interested in seeing me again once he was back in town from work. I waited the two weeks he said he'd be tied up, now it is four. I was totally direct with him and said I preferred honesty and that he could be direct with me -- as we didn't need to get together again, but that I thought our meeting was impressionable. He said he was direct and wanted to see me again, and still finding hard to find a time as he is traveling and am seeing via Facebook that he is going out and doing social things...but won't find a ton of time to call, text or message quicker to plan. So I'm getting a little pissy, and am happy to try and trust and be patient, but it is dragging on. And maybe you think lack of emotional awareness at this point and he is just busy cranking with work and his normal social life? I think he was honest when he said he wanted to see me again and I remember him also seeming kind of sweet and easy to be with. I am very curious about this man and was really attracted to him and it felt so easy. But, yeah, women have some standards and don't want to be holding out for this forever.