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This is a discussion on ENTJ male approach to dating within the ENTJ Forum - The Executives forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Neutron A couple of my friends describe my dating/relationship style as the "scorched earth method" lol. They ...
I have casually known an entj male for about 3 years. Over that time he has not asked me out but he does seem to be observing me. Lately, we have talked on the phone and he comments on my attractiveness. I am an esfj and am curiously interested in him but the closest he has come to asking me out is to ask me to meet him for a game at the last minute. I declined as I had other plans. He does seem to be there when I need him. Is he interested in dating me or what? Should I just invite him to do something? Or keep waiting?
Last edited by esforeverj; 12-08-2010 at 01:52 PM. Reason: message should say "entj" male
So...what do entj males thinks of esfj females. Actually, I have been blunt, at least for my personality, but maybe thats not enough?
So I'm curious... you guys put major emphasis on bluntness, but how do you really talk with the person you're trying to get? Do most of you do outright flirting - like the kind demonstrated in the first post? Or do you talk with them as you do with everybody else, and instead do things for them that you wouldn't normally - like text a lot even if you're not a texting person, stay up late chatting when you're always keen on getting your six hours of sleep, etc?
And also, I've heard that ENTJs don't see the need in keeping in touch, and can go about for days without initiating contact, even if it's somebody they're really interested in. Is that true? Considering how you always talk about being direct/hating to waste time, I'd always imagined you guys would be more keen on that. Or is that all part of taking-your-time-and-getting-to-know-the-other-person progress?
I hope I'm not being off-topic, it's just that I'm trying to figure this ENTJ out. We're sort of "friends but something more than friends", and even though my friends keep insisting he's into me, I don't really feel it. (IMO, it's more like we just click well as friends, and he wants to get to know me better.) Then again, I've a tendency to be terribly unperceptive on other people's feelings towards me, so I'd love to get some feedback.
I definitely won't stay up late chatting on the phone. On the phone, ten minutes tops, and even that's rare. In person (sometimes via skype) I can definitely talk for a while, esp. if I have the time.
Hope this helps
Okay, that explains a lot... but say if the girl was online on Skype/other instant messaging place and so were you, would you not write to her, even if you were interested? It strikes me as rather... odd. I mean, texting, calling or meeting someone -- it's all something you have to set aside time for, but if you're already online on an instant messaging place, what's the point in not writing? I usually use that as an argument whenever my friends say that he seems interested in me. So far, they've yet to come up with a proper response :POriginally Posted by topgun31
LOL -- me and subtle flirting doesn't work all that well; a little bit too blunt for that. I might've done some subconscious flirting with him, though, now that I think about it... xDOriginally Posted by topgun31
I am attracted to him (which I'm pretty sure he has noticed), but I'm not really looking for a relationship right now, unless I consider the guy good (and patient) enough to fit into my busy schedule. If it's him, I might consider it... but unless he initiates something, I'm not up to it =P
But thanks a lot, your explanation really helped :)