My mother is one of my greatest companions; she is warm, giving, kind--everything an ideal ENFJ strives to be. However, the majority of the time she makes her decisions based upon her flighty, ever-changing feelings. This is not to say that she is scatterbrained or irrational, it simply means that she rarely (if ever) makes her decisions based upon rational analysis. This difference between the two of us (for I, as an ENTJ, tend to make the strong majority of my choices based upon rational analysis) has become a problem as of late (perhaps due to high-stress careers and home environments); I often find myself in the middle of an unecessary, completely irrational fight because I have offended her when I became critical of her decision-making process. I will point out logical fallacies (most often her Appeal to Pity, Appeal to Spite and Two Wrongs Make A Right principles of debate) in both her decision-making and parenting styles, hoping that she will use this information to better herself, but instead she becomes very hostile and argumentative. It is impossible to solve a dispute with my mother using any other tactic then simply sitting quiet while she blows off her emotional steam, and so, in turn, I become frustrated with the lack of development and resolution within our relationship.
Any advice on the matter? Also, I'm curious about ENTJ's who have feeling-dominated parents; did you have trouble being parented or resolving conflicts within the relationships with your parents? How have you been able to work through these conflicts?