How Does an ENTJ Pursue a Person....?

**backspace** · 08-25-2010 09:37 PM

If an ENTJ (male, specifically) is interested in a person, how do they go about pursuing them?

Are they assertive/aggressive?
Do they pursue tirelessly?

Any info/insights/past experiences would be much appreciated!

**vagus** · 08-25-2010 10:36 PM

This is a very situational question with so many different factors involved. Age, financial position, maturity, motives all play different roles in how different every response will be. It might be impossible to give you a helpful answer since we will approach things differently, even as ENTJ's.

**Knives** · 08-26-2010 01:14 AM

Troisi hit the nail on the head.

Personally, I find that it boils down to insecurities/securities at the most basic level for ANYONE.

However, if I were male, I think I would like to do the chasing. Working hard for something and then getting it makes it so much more satisfying.

**Apollo Celestio** · 08-26-2010 01:25 AM

Te desire for achievement, eh? I can relate, but I don't think I'd want my relationships to work that way. But this isn't about me, is it? They don't want a pushover. They can make one of those any day. I imagine if they have anything more than lust (not so much a dig on ENTJs as it is a dig on our culture) They probably will be drawn to something in them, a ..strength perhaps?

**Knives** · 08-26-2010 02:06 AM

Originally Posted by Apollo Celestio

Te desire for achievement, eh? I can relate, but I don't think I'd want my relationships to work that way. But this isn't about me, is it? They don't want a pushover. They can make one of those any day. I imagine if they have anything more than lust (not so much a dig on ENTJs as it is a dig on our culture) They probably will be drawn to something in them, a ..strength perhaps?

I agree. Something strong, different, rare. I think if you could combine that with delicate and cultured, you'd have an irresistible combination.

As a female...just replace delicate with masculine.

**MrsSmith** · 08-26-2010 07:22 AM

As a female ENTJ I was always more aggressive in my pursuits than any other girl i knew. I tried to be subtle, but thats close to impossible for me.

**RhoAlphaNuAlpha** · 08-26-2010 02:05 PM

It's my experience that being too aggressive can be a bit overwhelming for some people, thus scaring them off.
To which I then think, what a pussy? Perhaps it's best they did get scared off.
Also, not being forward is quite irritating because then things are left up in the air, also annoying.
"Do they like me? Let's analyze this for 20 hours" etc
I dislike games.
The best approach is to just go with the flow. I dont put limitations on things, I try and use intuition to see how things are unfolding.

**dude10000** · 08-27-2010 08:15 AM

How Does an ENTJ Pursue a Person....?

Poorly. I personally don't do peacocking, and pointless banter is just distracting.

To paraphrase Daniel Plainview: "Too much confusion, thank you for your time."

Do they pursue tirelessly?

hahaha not me!

Maybe there are some ENTJ Lotharios out there. But asking this question to a nerd like me is like asking if Bill Gates is a sex symbol.

**wiarumas** · 08-27-2010 11:46 AM

I'm bad at it, so I can't provide quality advice.

Mostly I just talk to them and hope to have a deep, personal conversation. I throw in a few compliments (I really like your shirt, it matches your eyes) to let them know I'm interested.

I mostly rely on my looks and a personal connection to seal the deal haha. Not too good at being a hunter. I'm more of a let them come to me kinda guy.