[Mars]

Also, it's hard for other types to forget about the intimate moments ( especially when it comes to sex) they have had with us after seperating.

[infinitia]

So? What did you tell him?

;)

hahahhah

J/K ;)

Oh I know you're not kidding. ;) jk.

I actually barely knew him at the time so I was more baffled than anything. I ended up not answering him and he actually started talking to me more after this.

[Mango Kiwi]

edit: no being dominated, but being taken care of the Fi side. If the other partner is excellent at something we are not, we are willing to let them handle it, and we can sit at the back seat, enjoying. No problem.

Dominated is a really strong word and reminds me of like whips/chains stuff lol.
I prefer the idea that ENFP/ENTJ have a great / fun way of taking turns being "in control."
(And this thread IS about sex---)

[Enfpleasantly]

I recommend the type 3 ENTJ flavor...

[Mars]

Dominated is a really strong word and reminds me of like whips/chains stuff lol.
I prefer the idea that ENFP/ENTJ have a great / fun way of taking turns being "in control."
(And this thread IS about sex---)

The ENFP's control is Taking charge of PLEASING the other partner great though.
Isnt this thread about sex???????? NO???? holly shit!

[Mars]

I recommend the type 3 ENTJ flavor...

Whew, you didnt say " i recommended 2eng, it would be clearer". ok just kidding.
why do u think type 3 ENTJ is better compared to other enneagram types?

[Enfpleasantly]

Whew, you didnt say " i recommended 2eng, it would be clearer". ok just kidding.
why do u think type 3 ENTJ is better compared to other enneagram types?

Because that's 2eng's type

[Mango Kiwi]

The ENFP's control is Taking charge of PLEASING the other partner great though.
Isnt this thread about sex???????? NO???? holly shit!

lol
NF/NT
{head spins!!!}

[LaBarrister]

Hmmm...with all these flattering comments, you would expect the ENTJ's to be rushing to post. Are they just too busy with other projects, or shy or do I need to be a little bit more directive with the thread? :-S

Well, I shall try the latter.

So, personality page says the following about INFJ's:

Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.

And it says the following about ENTJ's:

Sexually, the ENTJ is robust, imaginative and enthusiastic. Their natural instinct to lead will be apparent in this arena as well as other areas of life, and they will lead their partner on creative lovemaking adventures, where the focus is on mutual learning and affection sharing. They're likely to expect sex on a relatively scheduled basis.

Based on the discussion in the INFJ forum, the description seems pretty apt, although it doesn't touch on the creativity/imaginative part which I think is also an important factor.

To what extent is the above true of ENTJ's, and how would you add to it. How important is it in feeling connected with a partner (one of the INFJ's said it was 70% of the relationship, for example)?

What values are present where there is a healthy connection? e.g. for myself - generosity, mutuality, playfulness, creativity, respect . . .

There, I hope that helps...

Honestly, I am disciplined enough to go quite a while without sex if I love and respect the girl. Personally, I think that waiting until marriage but then going all out and hitting it 5+ times a week for the rest of your lives, until you get old and crinkly (and then only once or twice a week ;)) is the most wonderful thing I've ever heard.

As for creativity, I've never met a girl who has been comfortable enough with her or me to do anything creative, and I've always thought that was such a drag. When girls lie there and just take it, I just want to get out of bed and go do something useful with my time. Let's make it an adventure, like was said! Wow me...make me think you're weird. I'll like it :) we ENTJs see that as an ability to exude confidence and be yourself, which we love, love, love.

As for an ideal connection, I'd want a girl who was confident, smart, submissive, trusting, loving, adventurous, spontaneous, and, let's see...horny? Duh!

I don't think putting sex as a percentage of an entire relationship is adequate alone. You must be more specific with the terms. Do you mean %70 of the time the two spend together should be having sex? Or %70 of the relationship's focus and energy? Or what? Either way, I don't think is easy to place in a percentage range. I think it is just a healthy part of a relationship, and what defines healthy will depend on those two special people. I could see having it once a week or everyday healthy depending on what the experience was like and how that experience lived up to my beliefs, goals, and values.

[LaBarrister]

I'm not sexually attracted to someone that I'm not mentally attracted to. it's kind of annoying, in a way. so quickly do attractive boys ruin themselves by talking.

Gosh I have this exact same problem with hot girls who speak like idiots. It's a curse, I tell you. So much wasted potential.