Hello ENTJs. I am an INTJ and I have a rather long, complex question. It has two parts so if you dont want to read through the second long part then please just answer the first question.
1. What do you think about INTJs as a potential partner?
2. So I am pretty inexperienced as far as sex goes. I know I'm attractive and have a great body because people tell me so. My second time was with an ENTJ (we were mutual friends through a really good guy friend of mine--ENFP). Most of our interactions are with the ENFP smoking weed and just chilling, talking about whatever. I know he likes me at least as a friend because we can talk/get along and the conversation flows. I get him because of the NTJ thing. He also said (in the company of the ENFP) that he thinks I'm a cool girl, but most girls are too emotional/clingy which he does not understand/like. He knows that I know that he has a reputation for hooking up with a lot of girls, but I don't mention it or bother him about it. Its really not my business as we're not dating, and I don't particularly care.
Anyway, the first time we hooked up there was no penetration that time because it was still painful for me. I was willing, but he said "I feel like I'm hurting you" so we just fooled around with oral sex and fell asleep afterwards. We cuddled a bit cause he said he was a cuddler (lol). That was in may. Fast forward to this semester during the first week of school. I hit him up to smoke and we get into it. I was reluctant because of what happened last time and I didn't know if there would still be pain, but he insisted. Anyway, it was great...while it lasted. It was kind of awkward during...he was ehem... eating me out, for example, and avoiding eye contact. He also orgasmed pretty quickly and I didn't realize. It was like this
"Oh I just came"
"Yea thanks for noticing"
I felt bad because I was having fun but I think I may have hurt him/insulted him but I didn't mean to. Just a bad choice of words really. Didn't help that I was high as fuck and we just sat there afterwards and I kept staring at him. He kept like looking at me weirdly at the corner of his eye saying
"What? Why do you keep staring at me?"
"Shit sorry I'm just high as fuck"
"You really like looking at me don't you"
Anyway after about 10 minutes of just sitting there we got dressed and he started playing some music, surfing the internet. At one point he saw this music video of some big booty girls and was like
"Sorry I have to watch this"
"Yea ok I don't care"
"Its just...I mean damn they are thick as fuck. I'm a guy I like this shit"
"Yea I mean if I saw something with a hot guy I would watch it too"
Then we chilled for a bit and he walked me out of his place, gave me a hug and I was on my way. I am currently studying abroad with the ENFP friend, so I have had zero contact with him since that night.
SO my question is, is there potential for a relationship here? I don't have feeling for him but I think they could possibly develop if/when we start hooking up again when I return last semester. He's hot, we get along, we have a lot of shared interests, I know he thinks I'm sexy. Should I bother? Would he be interested? Or should I just enjoy the sex?