Isn't there too big difference between these types?
Generally, we don't use 4th function too much which means ENTJs aren't really good at using Fi while INFPs struggle with Te. Especially if they are both <30.
Beside that, they use a different type of intuition so they perceive the world in different way.
I know one INFP and he is almost always late. Not 5 or 10 minutes but even 20 sometimes. Besides that, he is more likely to say "Meh, idc, I'm too lazy, I'll go and play games". That kind of behaviour pisses ENTJs off. Not even talking about completely illogical outbursts of emotions.
I understand that "opposites attract" but is this working to that extend?
INFP's are supposed to be the idealist profile, curious and searching for meaning, what's right, what's worthy, and articulate with the care of Shakespeare.
For the type which constantly looks to enact grand plans, and be on the spearhead of organisational leadership, because 'that's how you achieve a goal better!' but too fast and absorbed by work to ponder it's meaningfulness and whether blindspots with other responsibilities cause underlying problems. We all need a flame to give meaning to what we do and that we are taking care of what's important. Someone who feels that they're taking care of all that will feel pretty good about themself.
Whether the mbti labels accurately reflect that style and become the dominant interpersonal dynamic is another matter.
I've done some research into this myself. I think it's more about the individuals involved and less about the way they see the world through their individual dimensions. I met an incredibly interesting ENFP. The way she saw the world was similar to my own, but her ability to think critically and be able to be supportive of the genuinely awesome ideas I had was something I hadn't experienced before. I think anyone who makes it easy for us to connect with mental (through well thought out discussion, whether introverted or extroverted), and allows us to critically see things from "the other side." I personally find this very interesting and exciting.
Maybe if you got a patient-ass ENTJ with a little room to rent in their heart. And an INFP with a whole lot of whoop-ass and with a huge priority on responsibilities.
Guys the system which defines what the "ideal match" is is flawed. Why? Because to determine what the ideal match for a type is you keep the S or N (wahtever the type in question has) and witch everything elser around. There is one problem: This doesn't make any sense. The results differ depending if you are determining the ideal match for a type with a dominant S or N function or for a type with a dmonant T or F function. While N and S dominant get an ideal match wose dominant function is the other variant to your dominanting function and function 2 and 3 just switch around T and F dominant types get a match which dominant function is their inferior function and who has the other variants of function 2 and 3. So this need to be fixed. So we have to ask us what makes mire sense? Machting Types who have the inferior function of the match as dominant function or types who share the same priciple as dominant function with different introvertes extroverted focus. It's probaly the latter.- Some matchups like INTJ ENFP are quite known to actually work. And it makes more sense. Those persons should be more in tune. As an ENTJ dating an INFP would never cross my fucking mind. That seems so unlogical. If I would date a fi-dom (and I wouldn't) i would prefere the ISFP because of the shared se and ni. So for dominant T or F types the letter which stays the same should be t or f. Everything else changes. And yeah, I can see how ENTJ and ISTP fit very well. Not in a romantic relationship with one but my closest friend for over a decade is one. It works. So don't believe the bullcrap. THe ideal match for ENTJ is probaly the ISTP and not the INFP.
Won't comment on the logic behind it but I love sad and cute ISTP girls. I've spent 20% of my life just stalking them. Long-term commitment to them is a bad idea though.
I have a friend who is an INFP. I used to think she was great but now that I've been spending more time with her and I'm getting to know her more I honestly can't fucking stand her.
TBF, I'm not sure how many-if any- of her insufferable traits are because INFP or her own neuroses.
I found myself acquainted with four INFPs in senior year. I think we stayed on good terms because I followed one of my life principles: I like talking to you; I don't like getting to know you. Simple conversations and laughs, and that's about it.
I met an INFP girl in college. We clicked almost immediately, and lived together for 5 years, before I finally gave in to the social pressure and married her. That was 27 years ago. I think the key is we agree politically, about life philosophy, and had very similar childhoods. She is my best friend. Maybe my only true one.
Well yeah but I wasn't just talking about relationships, also about friendships. My best friend is an ISTP. Emotion is pretty out of the equasion most of the time. Which is how we both prefer it.
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