& I don't even know if I'm an ENTJ. I repeatedly take the test but continue to be an ENTJ - even given by other systems.
I mean without a doubt I know, but really?
I am a female, so more so this a thread for any other ENTJ females to relate because I wanted some insight on their background. A compare and contrast, if you will. On a lot of things, not just your childhood.
I remember as a child I was a tom boy, and always the leader of the group. It was never intended (outwardly, haha, but I had my plans), it defaulted this way. I was never interested in dating until I was about 20. Simply because nobody was competent and what could you possibly make out of a relationship any younger than 20 except the ritualistic mating process? It's obvious at that age, I'd wished people would be more realistic with themselves and stop the facade, especially men approaching me.
Any attempts to conform me to more "womanly ways" was viciously defeated with stubborn rebellion with my parents.
Being only a bit older now, I notice I'm either befriend competent people (much older than me), or no one at all.
It's like I have agreed with forever, "If you can't handle the heat get out of the kitchen."
It's hard to make me laugh - the oh so average sense of humor everyone shares? Come on, when people actually laugh at that or waste my time with it, I want a refund.
I hate when people talk and you think, Oh they KNOW about that! and you open up your knowledge box and they're looking at you going, because they signed out as soon as you opened your mouth.
In regards to guys I ended up with a man who had minimal depth, I suspect he an an INTJ but I could be wrong. When he disrespects me or makes me SUSPECT I have been wronged outright, (though I KNOW), I can become domineering. Ok..more domineering than normal...and I can confront him like a lion. He doesn't flinch or react, in 5 minutes hes forgotten and is none the wiser.
Men I have been very close to, it's ALWAYS the same. We share understanding, concern, thoughts, theories, patterns of thinking and goals. We do things together, we're outward, active but close. Then they get touchy feely. Oh, I didn't take their advice. Oh, I didn't defer. Oh, I didn't consult them. So when I am badgered or belittled this way I send retort like a T-90 -
their way. I've been labeled as the TANK. It isn't very sexual in their regards either - simply a warning. The last guy that had a panic attack with me did the final disrespect and mocked me outright, so I cut him to pieces and he ran away. I suspected I should feel sad, but I felt, proud. sometimes I stop and go, it'd be nice to have a conversation with him....HAHA..no, I won that war, no going back and move on.
Are there other ENTJ women that think this way?
I think given the "norm" per society, an ENTJ FEMALE is like a live grenade in the eyes of many and it tends to make others shove us away. I feel like I'm some lone wolf leader on an island that everyone vacated. They'd drown before hang around. XD
So I read about ENTJ women and was surprised how easily I identified with them.
Another situation is the workplace. Upon entry to the position coworkers assume I am either the meek mouse or are intimidated, depending on what version they get to view first. Within two days I've mastered the job and am suggesting my trainer how to go about their commands and prompts in the system. I'm under the impression I'm making it better, easier, and am still assuming my role - I'm showing him I understand! I find out later others assume I'm trying to act like I know it all.
No,not all, just more than most of them. Give me two more weeks and I'll have your job.