[EverSo]

So I was wondering if anyone else has had this: I was totally focused in high school, but now I don't know what I am doing with my life.
Don't worry about my grades. I can keep them at above average. It's just I feel like I lost my drive. I'm not sure what I am going to do with my major, so I don't feel like it is necessary to ace my classes.
As far as my social standing, I think I've withdrawn myself way more than I've ever withdrawn myself before. I hang out with people, but not necessarily in the manner that I'm used to.

I'm starting a part-time job soon to keep myself busy. For some reason working always makes me feel better.



How do I get out of this slump?

BTW my bad, if you read this post before I finished. Apparently if you hit the enter button too many times, your post gets ...POSTED. Totally blew my mind.

[Mr Canis]

I doubt it's "midlife", but that is certainly a crisis. Fortunately, I think it's a pretty common one. I had the same sort of problem during my college years, as did a lot of my friends.

These years are important ones for you, you are changing into the person you will be for the rest of your adult life. But, they are tough ones as well, because it feels like you are in between stages of your life. I remember it well.

All I have to offer is "hang in there". Look for things that catch your attention. Don't force things, they WILL come naturally, in their own time.

As best you can, live for today. Tomorrow will take care of itself, I promise you. You will eventually look back on this time in your life with some level of satisfaction, knowing that it made you into who you are. Sample things you might not otherwise sample, talk to people you might not otherwise get to know and learn things that you might want to know someday. It will all pay off.

"This moment is the only thing that matters." - Peaceful Warrior

[KindOfBlue06]

I'm pretty sure it's called a quarter life crisis, unless you're planning to off yourself when your 50. Yeah being a twenty something can be rough, questioning shit, which way to go, what to do and all that you know. I'd suggest taking an honest look at what you want, and WHY you want it, then go from there. Is it worth it to you in the long run? If so, how can you make it happen? What can you do RIGHT NOW to make it happen? Think about it for a while and you may come up with an answer that may surprise yourself.

[pinkrasputin]

I had my mid-life crisis going from 29 to 30. But I was also an actress. It makes us more shallow than most.

[KookyTookie]

I'm just coming out of some sort of crisis and I'm 27 - don't worry!

Hang in there; you'll come out of it eventually, and you'll be stronger and a little wiser for it as well (at least that's what I keep telling myself, lol)

[MegaTuxRacer]

If you die in your late 30s or early 40s, sure.

[EverSo]

Meh, by Midlife crisis I was leaning more on the whole identity crisis part of it. I think age is relative. Besides, I feel like this is something that I am going to continuously encounter.
I guess I just don't know what to focus on next. After thinking a bit more rationally, I made a goal to find out what career I am aiming for and I will work backwards from there. Once I have a career, then I can focus on the method I will use to get to that career.

Sorry. I wasn't really thinking before. This is sort of a waste of thread. My bad.

[DJArendee]

Identity crisis. Yes. Still having one. My fascination with mbti is only one of its manifestations.

[EverSo]

You know I never cared about this stuff for years. It was only until my friend looked his up and I was curious about how we interact. I didn't let my description define me. I think it just gives a general characterization of things that I do. It doesn't tell me who I am.
I know that I am goal oriented. I just need to choose another goal. I've accomplished one and I am in a goal redefinition stage. This stage is sooooo boring that I feel like my life has no meaning at the time. I hate wasting time...from my life. To make it worst, do to the completion of my last goal I don't have many people to occupy my time. Because wasting time is not necessarily a waste of time. It is good for times like this, but most of my friends graduated when I was focused on my goal. The ones I kept weren't as loyal as I expected, or at least their loyalty has changed anyway.
Meh.
So what's bothering you?

[Jeffrey]

@EverSo Wow. I got a little wet eye reading this from another ENTJ, I think I am in the phase in life as you and feel similiar. Dont care about grades or sometimes even finishing my university assignments. Redefining the goal, that what I dont know how to do. Exactly as you writing.. feel like I am wasting my time and I hate it.