Heya. Perhaps there is someone who always rejects all of your ideas or offers...You try and be nice and inviting, but he always rejects even when he's not doing anything special. I'm that guy. Here are some things about my stacking and how things are from my perspective.
I'm Sp/Sx/So - reserved, introverted. I have my own interests, and going out with people means to sacrifice interest time for...nothing, there's no gain to me unless there's some middle path like food which I like. I need my independence, I can be very hard to get through to as I keep people at a distance and never invite them except for hugs and physical touch and such. But everything about group activities passes me by like words of a foreign language. I don't understand to listen to it.
Recently I've been pretty much isolated for months not talking to anyone and I like that. Sometimes I can be quite socially awkward, I just don't know how to do it. But today it felt very natural and due to certain causes I met with family and many of my friends and acquaintances(not all at the same time, thank god) and it felt really good. Some of them I've had some issues with in the past at times. My alone time in 'isolation' had recharged me, or it seemed that way. I took my time to really talk to them, sometimes 1on1 sometimes small groups around a table. And I met a couple of new faces and we talked and got along really well. I pretty much laughed and smiled and connected with everyone I met with today. A good day by any standard.
But in my life, if someone ever asked me to join in on something instantly there would arise these resisting impulses in my head(since I want to keep to my own interests) turning into thoughts. "When, how are we getting there, what are we eating, how much is it?" And so I'd always answer with follow-up questions trying to gauge if it's worth it. Only later on would it possibly occur to me that maybe I should join to spend time with people and not because of the actual event. If everything had been taken care of, if I liked the answers to my questions then maybe I'd care to join. Most often not as it didn't pass the test. So with new people it's really hard to get me to do anything with them. At least if you're an old friend of mine you'll know I have a weakness for pizza and such.
However I see now how...practical it would be for me to be more social and outgoing. Sort of oblivious to how it could actually be pleasant or useful in and out of itself, I most definitely feel it would be good to grease the wheels to make my relations easier. It would be leverage for me so that I could continue with my own stuff without people butting heads with me because I don't wanna do the things they do.
So I'm thinking of puting in a little bit of effort on my own to make things soo much better. Tell about the finer arts of social grace and what's going through a Soc firsts head. Why do you invite people to go with you to do stuff all the time. What do you want from co-workers and people in general?? What do you think of social awkward people and people who always rejects you or never joins in?