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This is a discussion on People acting like you're a freak/strange/abnormal/stupid etc within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Bumblyjack Is there no greater purpose in life? Is that all there is to live for or ...
Maybe a bit now and then but...I get the feeling that some people actively look for ways to put others down so, I wouldn't take it too personally. If someone says negative things about you it says more about them than it does about you.
My youngest daughter gets really offended by put downs or "perceived put downs" (because she can make anything look like a put down) but when it is an honest to goodness put down...then I say "Awww, that kid either needs a friend or their parents are probably mean to them and they don't know any better". It seems to help her realize its not her fault and it's really not. We can't control what other people think or say, for the most part. THe only thing we have control over is how we react to it.
And she is learning some really good comebacks just in case the kid doesn't need a friend. lol
@Chipps I got what you were saying.
On the subject of being 'selfish' - I actually fully embrace this part of me now. Obviously, when it comes to people I actually care about I will always try and ensure my 'selfish' tendencies aren't hurting them. Being selfish suits me. It makes me more assertive, it makes me stronger; and this in turn makes me a wiser and more productive person.
I tried the whole sacrificing myself to 'please people' and 'be nice to everyone' thing when I was younger. It didn't get me anywhere - why? Because I'm an Fi-aux, and in order to maintain this ALL the time I had to sacrifice part of who I am. This made me unhappy. This turned me into an evil axe-wielding psycho bitch who resented everyone for not appreciting how much I had forsaken to try and make THEM happy.
Moral of the story? Accept who you are and EMBRACE it. Screw what others think.
There's no hiding the truth. I am strange, but I can't say that I don't prefer it that way.
Yes.. People act like I'm a total weirdo because I know tons of random stuff.
Here's part of some conversations I've actually had"
Tyler: "Hey Micah, *looks at a picture on his phone* what do you call it when an animal has two different coloured eyes?"
Me: "Heterochromia.. Is it in the center of the eye, just a corner on the eye, or two full eyes with different colours."
Random person: "He watches JEOPARDY!"
Me: "Actually.. I do.. But I read about that one on Wikipedia. :D"
Tyler: "You're so weird.."
I don't want to lead you believing that being accepted by others isn't important because it is. You will come to learn where to draw that line :)