I've got a new roomate that tested ENFP. We enjoy talking about picking up women, and analyzing the situation, and we also make crazy decisions like, we went to the beach and were on such a rush that we came back the next day, signed an apartment lease together at the best place in this small town, and recruited a fun girl to come live for free in exchange for cleaning the house.
Point 1) dont make decisions at the beach/
Point 2) The analyzing and pursuing weird interesting possibilities I can see Ne with, but, he doesn't let it loose like I or some on here do. Do all Ne people go crazy like me? Perhaps I'm just wayyyyyyy outside of the box.
But, secondly, hes in a masters in counseling program, yet, he isn't huge on emotions.
A) Can ENFP's easily hide their emotions?
B) Can ENFP's not need to access Fi very much?
My theory is that, someone like a stereotypical guy that is ENFP, will have so much success just using Ne and extroverting, for example.. because of their.. well. "white male privilege in society" that they might not have had experienced the trauma and failures of many other people.
So, he is just generally confident, and perhaps... actually now that I think of it. He seems like I was in 9th grade before I had the trauma of being an outsider in 10th grade followed by depression etc..
Well, so I was sort of a sometimes shy ENFP in 9th grade then turned INFP after trauma.
So lastly and sort of unrelated to the original question:
Some people would say that makes me ENFP, but, most of you would disagree that I'm anything like you, and its obvious I resemble INFP.
I suppose I've figured out what I was trying to figure out now, but, I still think its interesting so I'm interested in hearing your comments etc..
I guess the question on my mind is, as I keep getting more and more social success (which started increasing greatly and fast about 6 months ago and also honestly when I started studying MBTI), will I start resembling my more natural form of "shy sometime ENFP?"
I mean very simply, I think we introvert when we need to plan and reflect, but, if we understand our purpose and have "control" via continued success to to speak to some degree, then, we need to plan and reflect less and less.
Buddhist monks for example, I would say are usually extroverting when they are meditating. They are simply feeling the environment and being one with it. They might focus on internal things initially, as beginners, or at the beginning of a session though. But like Buddha, it seems like he found an answer, and just stuck with it and never wavered after it. Jesus too (except when he was crying out on the cross).
Didn't mean to throw out the J word and bring everyone down! Pump it back up baby!
Really though, is anyone actually naturally an introvert?
People don't naturally just reflect etc.. unless they are dreaming in my opinion.
Introvert= processing failure.
The only way introversion would be someone's preference is if they
A) enjoy thinking on failure more than success
B) enjoy imagining interacting more than actual interacting
But come on, we all know having a dream come true is better than having a dream.
So I guess
C) Imagining dreams that couldn't possibly be true.
But I mean, I still honestly believe all my dreams can come true. I believe in true love, I believe in having a group of amazing people, I believe that pain is necessary and good, and I also believe that trying to do our best, sometimes avoiding pain etc.. is good. I'd ultimately like to look at life with the magic that I had as a child, and sometimes I do. Like when I focus on the artistic perspective of looking at life, that, I'm here for a purpose to grow even though i dont quite understand it, and, I'm being watched over and things happen for a reason. I mean that is an amazingly magical perspetive, literally, where everything within my field of vision, right now, is part of a matrix sort of game, but ran by some higher power that loves and cares for me.. how awesome is that!
So yea If an introverts dreams aren't realistic, that sucks, but I think there are real life perspectives out there that offer everyone a chance at looking at life like it was magical, and therefore not giving up hope of those magical dreams, and a magical life.
Magic.. magic.. magic.