I think it may be an enneagram 6 thing. It's hard to explain.heh, don't play games with women who can play better ;) XD
And to the OP, why would you want to be friends with people you're afraid of. I was afraid of a teacher i had in junior high school. He caught me chewing gum my first day in his class, he freaked. He was a screamer, and now that i think back i think he had some mental issues too. I wasn't used to all this yelling and screaming, i thougt he would eat me given the chance. What i realized was once i let that fear go, i didn't need him or want him to like me. Mid year he tried to cozy up to me, i rejected him hard.
I suppose what you're trying to say is, " Keep your friends close, your enemies closer " ? You have enemies ? That means you stood up for something. Someone quoted that.:) I can't really relate to what you're suggesting here, although if it makes you feel better to get closer with people you fear, then who am i to tell you what is right or wrong. Personally i would put the fear of God into them, turn the tables around ;)...And what is it about people that scare you ? Maybe we can suggest something if we knew what this is :)