This is something I noticed about myself in my previous relationship which used to concern me. When I was arguing with my ex, and got to a certain point of anger, I would not be able to tell him I loved him, or show in any way that he meant anything to me. I would just feel very cold towards him and even if he had upset me I would feel like I automatically made it impossible to show I was hurt by crying or whatever, whereas he would never hide that I could hurt him and quite often would cry if an argument got serious enough. For him, no matter how angry he felt he could still know for sure that he loved me and be able to say it, but my feelings of love would temporarily seem to disappear until I calmed down.
We argued a lot, many of my needs went unfulfilled in that relationship, we weren't compatible and I was also suffering from severe depression so this might not be anything to do with my being an ENFP, but I wanted to ask if other ENFPs have experienced this at all? I'm trying to get my head around the concept of Fi and it seems that this might be connected to that?