[Some Kind of Blue]

Any other enfp's that feel this way in a sense that you have to befriend as many people as possible? I think I'm spreading myself too thin. Is this an enfp thing?

[Dania]

true after one correction...

you can never have too many friends Associates

[Alysaria]

Ah but strangers *are* friends....so acquaintances are basically the same thing. :P It's friends that are best friends...and best friends that are like boy/girlfriends.

There's nothing wrong with having a lot of friends - just so long as you don't overextend yourself on commitments. :)

[MuChApArAdOx]

Any other enfp's that feel this way in a sense that you have to befriend as many people as possible? I think I'm spreading myself too thin. Is this an enfp thing?

Yes it is likely an ENFP thing. Wait for a few years, you won't be as interested , people will bore you . Heh, well maybe not you, but that has been the pattern with me. I can count my true friends on one hand, everyone else is only an acquaintance. Huge difference there :)

[Bumblyjack]

It is somewhat of an ENFP but you're also a type 6 enneagram type with a 2w3 heart fix and So/Sx instinct variant. All of those things contribute to wanting to have a lot of friends. I kind of like to have several close friends but fewer friends overall, but that's more of a type 4 Sx/Sp thing (wanting people close to you who really "get" you and being frustrated with those who don't or who keep you at a distance).

[Dania]

Ah but strangers *are* friends....so acquaintances are basically the same thing. :P It's friends that are best friends...and best friends that are like boy/girlfriends.

There's nothing wrong with having a lot of friends - just so long as you don't overextend yourself on commitments. :)

i am not understanding this...

[Compassionate Misanthrope]

Yes it is likely an ENFP thing. Wait for a few years, you won't be as interested , people will bore you . Heh, well maybe not you, but that has been the pattern with me. I can count my true friends on one hand, everyone else is only an acquaintance. Huge difference there :)

Ah Mucha... sometimes I think that I have a prettier more eloquent Mr. Hyde who posts when I'm not paying attention.

[Finaille]

@MuChApArAdOx- I think I get what you're saying... I would love to be able to connect with more people but I find people to be either boring or shallow on average. I also have no tolerance for people who don't appreciate strange ;) which seems quite common in my area.

I realize though the more friends I have, the less time I have to relax myself. It's easy how quick things pile up on the schedule... and that includes people. While I prefer to be social, the more effort I put into people specifically, the more drained I get. That's one of the reasons I love my job; I'm around people, but I rarely spend time on a specific person for more than a few minutes. It's fabulous.

[FreeBeer]

It is somewhat of an ENFP but you're also a type 6 enneagram type with a 2w3 heart fix and So/Sx instinct variant. All of those things contribute to wanting to have a lot of friends. I kind of like to have several close friends but fewer friends overall, but that's more of a type 4 Sx/Sp thing (wanting people close to you who really "get" you and being frustrated with those who don't or who keep you at a distance).

You don't know what you are talking about...stop...just stop XD, :\ So/Sx and I don't want many friends nor do I have many...people bore me as @MuChApArAdOx said. I can count my true friends on one hand as well...>.< ok, maybe 2 hands. Being SO first has nothing to do with being "social" in layman's terms, thou it can manifest in such behavior as a defense mechanism. E6 especially tends to be fearful of things related to the primary instinct....so firsts may have social phobias, sx fists may be fearful of intimate relationships, sp firsts of being sick, losing resources.

Also so/sx prefers one to one relationships with individuals and doesn't like the "crowd", at least E6 doesn't. Maybe very strong So with low secondary (lightside) is "sociable" and requires it. Not sure. As So/Sx with very strong Sx, I'm not.

[Alysaria]

i am not understanding this...

The ENFP levels of love.
Strangers are like friends.
Friends are like best friends.
Best friends are like lovers.
Lovers are like SUPER LOVERS!!!!

Our affection is more extreme, so even though I may have a bunch of people who aren't really close friends that I label as "acquaintance"....to an outside observer, they may as well be friends based on how I interact with them.