[AdamLove]

I just realized I've never considered being happy in my definition of success. How come I have never thought of that? That's the truth, a genuine meaning of success. It's just normal and natural for people to consider happy as success.

happiness is relative though. I can get waisted all day and be totally happy in that moment, the question is then: what is happiness; feeling good? having security?
when success=happiness
then happiness=?

[Compassionate Misanthrope]

This is almost exactly what I would say. Which hardest ones have you got?
I got the loving wife. Money...not yet, but I'm working on my degree while scrapping by. Kids come after money, hehe.
I want to do more then travel once a year, I hope that my job will allow international travel on longer term/frequent basis's.

:) Glad to hear that your moving right along! I recently picked up the second degree and lost the wife. I'm not in the top 25% percent but working at it. I am making enough to travel and for a company which actually gives us base rates on international tickets! I'm always learning, soon i'll be paying someone to clean, and I'm trying to get out and reach out to people as much as possible... which I'm really enjoying so far. Looking for the lovely woman which is exciting, but this town is full of wonderful people around my age group with similar interests etc so I will find her, or she'll find me ;)

Oh and 99% of the time I get to live in accordance with my values. My company does good work and I have been helping and inspiring people all over the place. Now that I'm happy again everyone shows me where they need help. I love it. Last thursday I got to comfort one young girl who was going through a tough breakup, and help another guy who's in love with her but it's going nowhere and is completely obvious to everyone. He seemed a lot happier after our 2 hour conversation.

[Swordsman of Mana]

- getting what I want
- doing what I want, when I want to, on my terms
- working from anywhere in the world whenever I want
- paying someone else to do all of the tasks I don't enjoy (laundry, cleaning, cooking, bills, etc)
- not having any obligation to anyone, ever

[AdamLove]

:) Glad to hear that your moving right along! I recently picked up the second degree and lost the wife. I'm not in the top 25% percent but working at it. I am making enough to travel and for a company which actually gives us base rates on international tickets! I'm always learning, soon i'll be paying someone to clean, and I'm trying to get out and reach out to people as much as possible... which I'm really enjoying so far. Looking for the lovely woman which is exciting, but this town is full of wonderful people around my age group with similar interests etc so I will find her, or she'll find me ;)

Oh and 99% of the time I get to live in accordance with my values. My company does good work and I have been helping and inspiring people all over the place. Now that I'm happy again everyone shows me where they need help. I love it. Last thursday I got to comfort one young girl who was going through a tough breakup, and help another guy who's in love with her but it's going nowhere and is completely obvious to everyone. He seemed a lot happier after our 2 hour conversation.

helping people is your Job?
what exactly?

[AdamLove]

Success in an alternative universe may have meant something very different to me. Perhaps a universe where my parents die in a car crash and I end up being adopted by really loving people. A reality where I am me, except I'm not as fucked up.

To be quite frank what I want and what I believe success means are totally different.
The question should be "When you reach your last moment... were you successful, why or why not?"
Obtaining success isn't really a thing that you say "SUCCESS!!!" to, at least not for ENFP's, if that were the case then I am already successful!
So to the new question. To answer yes I'd have to be able to say that I left something of great value behind. How great? As great a thing as I feel I could have possibly left considering all things.
Like offspring that are awesomer then I am and will also want to leave something greater then themselves (like even more awesome offspring) and that good will come of it all.

[Misha]

- getting what I want
- doing what I want, when I want to, on my terms
- working from anywhere in the world whenever I want
- paying someone else to do all of the tasks I don't enjoy (laundry, cleaning, cooking, bills, etc)
- not having any obligation to anyone, ever

No offense, but this sounds very ESFP to me.

[Swordsman of Mana]

No offense, but this sounds very ESFP to me.

none taken
but it's 7w8, Sp dom and Fi

[AdamLove]

No offense, but this sounds very ESFP to me.

that is so my mom... yes she is ESFP

[Compassionate Misanthrope]

Success in an alternative universe may have meant something very different to me. Perhaps a universe where my parents die in a car crash and I end up being adopted by really loving people. A reality where I am me, except I'm not as fucked up.

To be quite frank what I want and what I believe success means are totally different.
The question should be "When you reach your last moment... were you successful, why or why not?"
Obtaining success isn't really a thing that you say "SUCCESS!!!" to, at least not for ENFP's, if that were the case then I am already successful!
So to the new question. To answer yes I'd have to be able to say that I left something of great value behind. How great? As great a thing as I feel I could have possibly left considering all things.
Like offspring that are awesomer then I am and will also want to leave something greater then themselves (like even more awesome offspring) and that good will come of it all.

I read this as "I need to feel connected to the universe... I need to have 'meaning' in my life" I totally agree.

[Dania]

Happiness... duh lol

what make one happy has nothing to do with type though