WELLLLL, let me start off by saying we are both 17 and have been close friends for years. I got out of a 7mo relationship this summer that ended badly and really traumatized me! A few weeks later i started getting super close to my INFJ friend and gradually, we became sort of a couple. Sometimes he just gets me. We have an amazing connection, and don't need to be talking to enjoy eachother's company. It started off great; we spent loads of time together and had absolutely beautiful moments and conversations....butttt....school started. He is HORRIBLE at managing time and has ZERO time for himself, let alone me. He basically gave me an ultimadum; go back to just being friends, or deal with it. I refuse either of these options! I love him too much to let him go, but i love me too much to "deal with it." We are both stubborn as hell, and cant seem to find a solution. He brought up that i wasnt quite over or healed from my ex a while ago, and he was right. I still miss him, but lately i have actually gotten at least 75% over him. That has released so much pressure from me as well. My biggest problems with him (INFJ) are lack of affection, insensitivity at times, and the fact that he cant seem to put me anywhere near the top of his priority list. His problems with me (ENFP) are that i am way too moody, needy, and am dependent on him for my own happiness. We have talked alottt, and I am working hard to adjust to his 'neglect,' but it isn't really making me happy, and I know we ARE capable of being happy.
HELP! I know I am young, but I also know that the connection we have is almost unreal! What can we do to meet eachother's needs?