We are Natural Born Seducers. Our ability to analyze, speak poetically, and inspire those around us is attractive. To us nothing occurs which does not have some sort of significance, and we hold an uncanny ability to see others motivations. We strive to be authentic to ourselves and I see no reason as to change because of the environment we are in. We are not the chameleon, the environment is, we change whats around us but never changing the true nature of our being.
Unfortunately since we are ALWAYS in our own heads we always find our sense of self (authenticity) lacking and tend to burn ourselves because of being so conscious of self. As we strive towards congruency through emotional experience we lose touch with our real feelings.
Constantly scanning the external through the direct often over analyzing situations to the point of looking for ulterior motives in others. This often leads to being something negative and more often a failed judgment. While our perseptions are spot on our judgement is off.
Our enthusiasm and energy is like a tornado sucking in everything and everyone around us. We create a world of knowing and with very little effort change the dynamic of social situations and view points with little effort (thus the stereotype of a silver tongue/gift of gab). The tornado only grows stronger because we gain energy in social dynamics rather then expend it thus our influence is remarkable.
Happiness and optimism comes hard hitting in ENFP's often believing in the good in others as well as human nature. Our sympathy, tenderness, and passion make us expert poets and lovers. Often when seducing we direct all energy which can be seen as intimidating, so the idea of keeping it tender allows ENFP's to escalate sexually at a rapid pace. Very little is held back when wooing and a sexual encounter could be seen as a championing of sorts after the act itself.
What is important is to maintain a sense of self and reminding yourself of the true nature of a relationship if you wish for it to continue. Often times (especially in Males) the fantasy of the sexual encounter dies to the reality of the consummation. Often times ENFP men search for the perfect women who can be everything in one.
Female ENFP's are thus more able to continue into the deep parts of romantics past the initial act of sex. The female is likely to continue the relationship, increasing dedication, and drawing significance by dramatizing the interactions with her lover, and a willingness to die for love. (Remind you of anything? Romeo & Juliet) It is this same behavior that inspires greatness in every person on the planet.
Our charming decor, are warmth, support, and understanding make us great friends. Our great social skills, willingness to give, and our emotional gifts lead to great things. It is also this willingness to give that often leads to turning people off when we first meet them because it is seen as quixotic to give so willingly to someone you barely know. (At Least in America) Our deepest emotions spread like wild fire and catch those around us often being the very center of attention. The world around us our playground.
For ENFP's it is not our mission to bend the spoon, our reality dictates that there is no spoon.
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