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  1. #1
    ENFP - The Inspirers

    My Job is Bringing Me Down

    So, Iím miserable. I mean, as miserable as I can be, being meÖwhich probably doesnít look all that miserable to most, but I just feel blah, totally not myself. Which sucks, really, because when Iím myself, life is just more fun. Anyway, for the past few months Iíve been unhappy, and last night my mom sat me down, all determined to get to the bottom of why I was moping all the time now.

    We figure itís my job. I didnít realize that being in the wrong job could bring me down so much, but thatís my momís hypothesis, and sheís rarely wrong about these things. Does anyone else find it almost impossible to ďsuck it upĒ sometimes? I keep thinking thatís what I should be able to do (hence never really admitting that it was my job that was making me upset elsewhere in life). I always figured, you know, itís work. No one really WANTS to work, we just do it because we have to. Now, Iím really starting to think that if I could just find a job that suits me, I could be incredibly happy again.

    Itís an exciting prospect, because it gives me the feeling that I can control my situation now, as opposed to just being blue and not knowing why. Is it an ENFP thing? An individual thing? Honestly, I do know people who really donít care what theyíre job is, or what theyíre doing, they just go, work, get paid, go home and theyíre totally happy as clams regardless. Why canít I just take it on the chin, do well at whatever Iím doing and let it all roll off my back? Does it make me unambitious, overly sensitive, ineffective? Lately, I've been feeling all of these things. I know I'm bright, I know I'm capable, but when you fail time and time again without really improving (though you should be able to) it starts to feel like you're...defective?

    Anyway, the great job search of 2011 begins now, because Iím not putting up with the crap Iíve been putting up with for another minute, either from my job, or from myself. *nods*
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  2. #2
    INTJ - The Scientists

    I've been feeling the same way recently. I'm coming out of depression, but these past miseries are fading fast.

    What is it about your job that you can't stand?

  3. #3
    ISTP - The Mechanics

    I'm unhappy in my job and it's tooootally bringing me down. I feel ya. I "sucked it up" for a year now but I'm sucked dry.
    Minesweeper Queen, chinotto, Kelly617 and 1 others thanked this post.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    I can totally relate! I used to become incredibly depressed and miserable when I was working jobs I didn't like. It felt degrading, thankless, and pointless. I knew my job was going nowhere, and that sooner or later I'd have to find something better, and the pay just didn't even seem worth it. I'd rather be poor and free than well off and locked up all day.

    But I can tell you that there is hope! I'm self employed now, I work as a freelance photographer, and I absolutely love my job! All the travelling makes me feel free, and my time in the field doesn't get so tiring since it's alternated with calm evenings editing photos in front of my PC at home. I get to meet tons of new people, I constantly get positive feedback on my work, it's creative and challenging, plus the money is better, and the hours are my own.

    You really just have to sit down and figure out what exactly it is that you truly want in a job and find a way to get there.
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  5. #5
    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Paradox of Vigor View Post
    I've been feeling the same way recently. I'm coming out of depression, but these past miseries are fading fast.

    What is it about your job that you can't stand?
    It's an administrative position with a not for profit organization. I mean, I could whine about my boss or my coworkers until the cows come home, but it's not really going to do any good, is it? XD The bottom line is, I'm not very good at admin work. I'm not all that organized, I'm not good with policies and procedures, I tend to lose things in the fray or prioritize items on my to do list badly, and on top of all that, the environment I work in believes quite strongly in micromanagement - something that seems to be making all of my other problems go from "mildly annoying weaknesses to overcome" to "insurmountable pile of steaming poo". >.<

    It's just so difficult to find anything right now, and I know I can't really afford to be picky, but I don't want to put up with it if it's seriously affecting my day to day life/mood. Thing is, I used to work in retail, for 7 years, as a customer service associate. It was very entry level, as part-time job as a part-time job can get, and I loved it. The only reason I left is because I graduated University and just felt that I had to...because...well...I was moving on, right? >.< I wish so much that I'd stayed now. Sure, I was making less money, but I was having so much more fun, and I was GOOD at it. Love working with customers, they responded well to me and they were always happy. It made me feel great.

    This...not so much. :p

  6. #6
    Unknown Personality

    You're definitely not alone. In the words of Khys, I've sucked it up for four years and I'm sucked dry too.

    I think it can happen to anyone who feels stagnated in their jobs. I believe more so for me because I have such a low tolerance for feeling stagnate. I strive for situations where I can learn and grow. I know I need to change careers but I keep procrastinating on doing the work necessary to transition out of my current career.

    I also feel trapped which a feeling I abhor!! I wish I had the answers to your questions but unfortunately I'm in the same boat. :(

    Quote Originally Posted by kelly617
    Anyway, the great job search of 2011 begins now, because Iím not putting up with the crap Iíve been putting up with for another minute, either from my job, or from myself. *nods*


    Me too! Your determination is contagious. Starting tonight I'm going to start my research and create a action plan for transitioning into my new career. What do you think about the idea of holding each other accountable via this thread? You know like make weekly post updates on our progress toward finding our new career? I sure could use a reliable accountability partner. What do you say?

  7. #7
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Yea I'm sure ENFPs need a sense of freedom within the work place(wherever that is), at least in order to get their fullest productivity out of them. A boring and dismal unimportant job would likely weight heavy on an ENFP. At least that makes sense to me. Perhaps you need a job that better fills your need for inner wholeness?

  8. #8
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by Kelly617 View Post
    It's an administrative position with a not for profit organization. I mean, I could whine about my boss or my coworkers until the cows come home, but it's not really going to do any good, is it? XD The bottom line is, I'm not very good at admin work. I'm not all that organized, I'm not good with policies and procedures, I tend to lose things in the fray or prioritize items on my to do list badly, and on top of all that, the environment I work in believes quite strongly in micromanagement - something that seems to be making all of my other problems go from "mildly annoying weaknesses to overcome" to "insurmountable pile of steaming poo". >.<

    It's just so difficult to find anything right now, and I know I can't really afford to be picky, but I don't want to put up with it if it's seriously affecting my day to day life/mood. Thing is, I used to work in retail, for 7 years, as a customer service associate. It was very entry level, as part-time job as a part-time job can get, and I loved it. The only reason I left is because I graduated University and just felt that I had to...because...well...I was moving on, right? >.< I wish so much that I'd stayed now. Sure, I was making less money, but I was having so much more fun, and I was GOOD at it. Love working with customers, they responded well to me and they were always happy. It made me feel great.

    This...not so much. :p
    Micromanaging?? YUCK!!! That has never worked very well for me. I believe job hunting is a numbers game. With the economy the numbers may have changed....but I believe if you work the numbers then the numbers will work for you. Where there is a will there is a way. And, sometimes you just have to go out there and create opportunities where none exist.

    If you enjoy retail, then I would recommend asking yourself how can I use what I have to get what I want and sit down with a pen and paper and identify all the skills you used during retail, all the skills you have used in admin, and all the skills you use day to day and see how maybe they can transfer into a field in retail that you may enjoy more and will pay more money. Their are so many careers associated with retail....you'll be amazed. :D

    In other words, we both need to think outside the box and get this party started!! You have me all pumped and excited now Kel! :D

  9. #9
    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by n2freedom View Post
    Me too! Your determination is contagious. Starting tonight I'm going to start my research and create a action plan for transitioning into my new career. What do you think about the idea of holding each other accountable via this thread? You know like make weekly post updates on our progress toward finding our new career? I sure could use a reliable accountability partner. What do you say?
    Yay! Sounds good! It always helps to have a little outside motivation. :D I'm going to really get started on it this weekend, see if I can do a little background research on who might be hiring and such, so I'll keep a running tally! It might help my mood too if I have something to focus on other than work. Make the search a bit of a part time job. :D It's got to be possible to find our happy places! XD

    If you enjoy retail, then I would recommend asking yourself how can I use what I have to get what I want and sit down with a pen and paper and identify all the skills you used during retail, all the skills you have used in admin, and all the skills you use day to day and see how maybe they can transfer into a field in retail that you may enjoy more and will pay more money. Their are so many careers associated with retail....you'll be amazed. :D
    I'm 100% positive it's the customer relations stuff that I love. My best side always comes out when I'm helping people or considering the humanistic side of problem solving. I used to think it was just sales, and I couldn't see myself being an associate for the rest of my life. Even if I could get a management position and go from there, maybe work my way up into human resources or customer service training at a head office somewhere.

    Either that, or I might explore the hospitality industry. I can't cook or clean well, but I'd like to try front desk, maybe hotel management? I feel I might be able to do something with that. I know people say it's stressful, and that customers and clients can be horrific to deal with sometimes, but even the worst of them seem to respond well to me, and I've never had an issue dealing with them.

    In other words, we both need to think outside the box and get this party started!! You have me all pumped and excited now Kel! :D
    :D Enthusiasm is SUCH a huge part of achievement, I think. What kind of job are you working at at the moment?

    @Paradox of Vigor - "Inner wholeness" is a funny way of saying it, but I definitely agree that I always feel like I need to be learning, and I need to be challenged, but not belittled for making mistakes. I need to be able to explore all sides of something, not just stuck in a little box and told what to do and how to do it every step of the way from 9 to 5. I need room to be expressive and creative and...and...lol, more adjectives that mean expressive and creative! :p Empowerment is important to me, if my boss doesn't make me feel empowered - free to make my own decisions and judgement calls, then I just feel stifled and trapped. I guess it brings me down on all sides. :S

  10. #10
    Unknown Personality

    @Kelly617 , great it's settled then you're my new accountability partner. If you are interested, I can post links from a website that helps you identify your ideal career via the enneagram. And, I have a book at home that helps you map it based on MBTI. Would you be interested in that information? If so, I can post it out here later. Also, if you have any information post it for me.

    Someone posted in the ISTP subforum that they kept a notebook of everything, job hunting tips, careers that looked interesting, jobs they applied for, etc. I think I'm going to adopt this approach as well. Chat with you later. :D
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