There's a few things about myself and I've been wondering if they're an ENFP thing, or just me.
First, I'm obsessed with always having the "best" experience. I'm always scanning to see which seats would be "best" at a ball game, or which sites would be best when camping, etc.... When I feel I've missed out on something I get really upset and kind of depressed. For example: A couple weeks ago we went camping with some friends. We had a large group and my and my husband were the 3rd people there. He just starts unloading on the site he parked next to and by the time I suggested we choose a different site (better shade, beautiful view) he said it was too late and he wasn't moving everything. The more I realized how crappy our site was and how great the other one was, the more upset and agitated I got. I moped for most of that first night and had a hard time shaking it even when I told myself that I would ruin my trip if I felt that way the whole time.
This leads to shaking emotions in general. My husband apparently has a switch to turn his emotions on and off and I have no such thing. If we argue, or I'm upset with him over something, I am upset for quite a while and he gets frustrated that I "keep it going" by continuing to be upset... but I can't do it any other way. I can't just go from angry to perfectly fine in a second.
Next thing is that I'm really sensitive to being left out and disappointment. When I'm left out it's one of the worst feelings in the world to me, when others are disappointed I can just feel the emotions and really want to reach out to them... which is rather odd for me. I'm no good at consoling. I'm good at problem solving and offering advice, but saying "I'm sorry" and "congrats" over and over just seems insincere to me.
So... are these ENFP traits, or just my own personal issues? TIA!