[TheOwl]

I almost regret it, still. The drunk accident was 6 months ago. That's a pretty long time, right? And when I think of it factually, he really doesn't bring her up much. It's just that when he does, it hurts so much. I don't know if he understood he was really hurting me. Over time, he mentions her less and less...not at all in the past couple months. And he really does try to stay far away from her. He said that if he wanted to be with her, he would be trying. I only thought of her because his friend brought the drunk accident up when we were hanging out, and I freaked out. I just feel like I might be overreacting. On the other hand, my judgement is probably clouded.

[Linnifae]

I almost regret it, still. The drunk accident was 6 months ago. That's a pretty long time, right? And when I think of it factually, he really doesn't bring her up much. It's just that when he does, it hurts so much. I don't know if he understood he was really hurting me. Over time, he mentions her less and less...not at all in the past couple months. And he really does try to stay far away from her. He said that if he wanted to be with her, he would be trying. I only thought of her because his friend brought the drunk accident up when we were hanging out, and I freaked out. I just feel like I might be overreacting. On the other hand, my judgement is probably clouded.

This may be asking the obvious, but have you ever discussed this with him? Sometimes people don't know how they are coming across.

[Dania]

I almost regret it, still. The drunk accident was 6 months ago. That's a pretty long time, right? And when I think of it factually, he really doesn't bring her up much. It's just that when he does, it hurts so much. I don't know if he understood he was really hurting me. Over time, he mentions her less and less...not at all in the past couple months. And he really does try to stay far away from her. He said that if he wanted to be with her, he would be trying. I only thought of her because his friend brought the drunk accident up when we were hanging out, and I freaked out. I just feel like I might be overreacting. On the other hand, my judgement is probably clouded.

this sounds like a relapse. sigh.

Only you can judge if he love her or not. As I asked... Do you think he would still be with you if this girl came around and wanted him?

I hope you arent trying to deceive yourself, but only you will know for sure, deep down.

[TheOwl]

This may be asking the obvious, but have you ever discussed this with him? Sometimes people don't know how they are coming across.

Yes, I have. We had never really had a long discussion about it until last night, though. Before, I just kind of told him to stop mentioning her because I was insecure, expecting him to get it. Why wouldn't he get that? I told him several times. Doesn't he want to avoid hurting me? But he always talks without thinking...he has no filter at all. That's why I trust him to be honest.

[FreeBeer]

Aww come on now, why do only the ISTJs get credit for having common sense?

:) cus ISTJs simply own when it comes to organizing thoughts. ISTJ moments for ENFPs are life changing. We utilize the subconscious Si function to learn from the past when this happens or something. All I know my Si is crap XD...what was I trying to say again?

@TheOwl

Don't stay inside and alone time is going to lead to no good thoughts and feelings.
Sleep properly, get some sunshine and move out of the house. Do something.
If you can't eat that is fine, if you take vitamins or something don't forget taking them and eat what you can.
Don't forget to drink 2l of fluids a day.
Talk to friends and family.

Sry if I'm acting like a parent but I know how crappy things can get. All of the above will help you.

[PhoebeJaspe]

Reminds me of myself with my past boyfriends. I used to always talk about josh... my first love. Always. With every single boyfriend I had after josh, I always talked about him for hours. It did make them uncomfortable but I think it's important they know how I felt for a guy... and I think it's difficult for me to fall that deep with another guy.
The drunk/crying situation I can relate to really well, I kind of hate it but it's not like I was 'seriously' upset... it may be a reminder of the fact that the 'love' I felt for someone is difficult to achieve and feel that emotion on a higher plane. I've tried to forget about it but some things have to be let out. I mean I do cry sometimes when I'm really wasted, haven't done it in a while.
It's been 3 years now and sometimes I find myself crying about him, only.
No one cares and I feel better about this when it's my problem and I don't want anyone to interfere with it.

Also, it seems like your ENFP boyfriend is trying to find comfort as he's going through a very traumatic moment, if he really loved her, he will always love her. Just be careful, he may be using you.