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This is a discussion on How to make peace with an ENFP (for an NT)? Is it probable? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by MuChApArAdOx What you want us to do is agree with all your typist comments. Yes, ENFP are ...
Or accept a sample of 2 is indicative of a type.
This is what I said. How do you even manage to read it in any other way than what it obviously says.
I am tralking about two specific individuals and I explicitly say the are not indicative of any type!
Judging what is different from us seems like a very common human behavior. The MBTI helps me achieve some level of objectivity.
My aim has never been to offend. I am trying to group things together in some way to make sense out of what I am seeing. I am honestly tired and sick of explaining myself.
Btw, you're not offending us, you're only annoying us because your thoughts aren't making sense.
Just like ours are making no sense to you.
MuChApArAdOx said a lot of what I wanted to say, I'm only going to say this:
If you're "painfully aware of the limitations of the MBTI," why aren't you using MBTI while being aware of its limitations? That's like saying you're painfully aware of the limitations of a water gun, but decide to use it in a gun duel, anyway.
I also think you're understanding of Fi is not quite accurate. It is not about placing the individual over the group as you stated in another thread. And we do place a very high value on doing the "right thing." We just trust our inner compass/conscience/instincts (whatever you want to call it) to point us in the right direction.
MBTI has it's uses. But good old fashioned empathy and waiting until asked to give personal advice is usually appreciated by most people regardless of type.
It really seems like you made the mistake of not asserting yourself in a situation that warranted it. If you're not into her 'in that way', just come out and say it. People don't need lovers, but they wouldn't be able to make it without friends. Don't get too high on the technical bogus. Being a thinker doesn't mean you have to be so impersonal, anymore than being a feeler means you have to be a quivering mess of emotional reactions. People are deeper than that. We develop at different rates, and hurtful experiences damage our potential. Doesn't matter how you process experiences. There are good ways to handle a situation and bad ones. Had you expressed yourself as soon as you noticed the gravity shifting, everything would have been peachy.
Say something simple, like "Look, I'm a mess these days and it's been hard for me to deal with anything that's complicated. You deserved more. By acting stupid and selfish, I hurt you and I'm sorry."
Then again, this person doesn't seem terribly important to you. Maybe it's better that you live with that guilt until the next time you experience a similar situation. That way, instead of pussyfooting around you can just come out and say "I'm not romantically available right now, but I really need a friend" or even "I think you're all sorts of cool and awesome. Let's go on a real date sometime."