[The King Of Dreams]

I have this issue and I want to make sure that I'm not going crazy (I'll try to make this as short as possible). I as an ENFP am a people person. But I always feel lonely even though I see my friends on a frequent basis. But once I'm home I get into a "nobody loves me" mood. I don't get to party that often, but when I do I'm very happy but then I feel like nobody want's me around a couple of days after. Fellow ENFPs, what does this sound like to you? Am I just being a big baby? Do you ever go through this and how did you deal with it? I feel I'm discontent despite the favorable circumstances I sometimes find myself in. HELP!!!!!!

[Quickbeam]

I identify with this 100% :P Dunno how to help you though, I haven't quite figured it out myself yet. But you're not alone! >.<

[Sillia Rosa]

You can have a lot of friends and be lonely.

[Paradox of Vigor]

You can have a lot of friends and be lonely.

Exactly. A thousand friends who are subpar are of little worth, compared to one friend who is extraordinary. It sounds like you need someone to talk iNtuitively with you. NF's -- bless them -- go forever talking with Sensors just to ensure that everyone gets a share of that diplomatic warmth of theirs. Many times they transform themselves in the process just to make sure no one is left out. So it would make sense that they would feel lonely if no one could directly relate with them.

EDIT: or if people begin to take advantage of these altruistic and caring beings.

[The King Of Dreams]

I have NF friends. Plus my mother is an ENFJ and we get along great. I guess I just need to be more busy? I have a fair amount of time on my hands. I just hope I can start the hobby I've been yearning for. I still would like your input to assist me and any other ENFPs that are going through this.

[chinotto]

I think we do need some amount of company, but maybe what we really need is Validation? I think this can come from accomplishing something we are proud of -- even if nobody sees it. If I get something done or do something that makes me proud, I can basically high-five myself. If I am not feeling good about what I'm engaged in, then I start to get lonely and want more social time and attention.

I think we ENFPs tend to need to be getting something good done, to be in the groove, to feel validated. This is different from other types who can just sort of exist and feel okay. : )

[Tridentus]

quality friends are important.. and just because they are NFs doesn't mean they are going to be quality- i've got ENFP and INTJ friends who i don't consider quality. it depends- although self esteem of both you and your friends matters a huge amount because it affects how you approach friendships as well and therefore what you get out of them- you can be outwardly confident like i've been my whole life but it's only been in the last year or so that i've been really at peace with myself and that really affects how you think. a consequence of that is that i feel like i've outgrown my old friends and they don't seem so important to me anymore..

yeah this basically means you need to work on yourself, and how do ENFPs do that? by experiencing pastures new both socially and environmentally- and what is uncle Tridentus's best recommendation for that? that's right kids!.. travelling!!

[MuChApArAdOx]

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yeah this basically means you need to work on yourself, and how do ENFPs do that? by experiencing pastures new both socially and environmentally-and what is uncle Tridentus's best recommendation for that? that's right kids!.. travelling!!

4yrs of University didn't teach me as much as i learned with random books and travel.

[nottie]

I used to have a huge problem with this. xD I'd have a great time around people and then feel bummed for no real reason if I was left alone with my thoughts for too long.

I'm pretty sure what fixed it was that I started to like myself. C: Travel is definitely a growing experience that helped me, but working on some of the personality flaws that I didn't like about myself and accepting that perfection wasn't going to happen - if you really do have two 1 wings, I'm sure that's something you've dealt with as well :P - and that not being perfect was perhaps preferred. (How would I laugh at myself if I never messed up?!?)

Good luck, buddy. C:

[Riy]

Being alone and having nothing to do is what triggers it all off for me.

Like others have said, You can have a lot of friends but still be lonely, the quality of that small group of close friends or even individual friend is unbeatable, I'm at the stage of not having those close ones right at the moment so I'm suffering from the same feelings.
Get into something that sparks interest, go out and about to new places and try new things and meet new people, It's okay to do it alone :)

Best of luck