[Lilsnowy]

Idris, ENFPs have the gift of seeming so uncomplicated and innocent and child-like. We're so light and happy and funny and excited, but so deep and searching and interested and yearning that we're actually more complicated than anyone could guess. But it's so simple to us.

This is why I have two personalities. Because two are required.

[Alysaria]

-nodnod- Definitely. You have the light-hearted fun one who loves people and is naive and generous and sweet....and then you have the cynic who secretly wants to tell mean people to shove it and expects the worst constantly. >.> The second personality is the part that always plans what to do when some random person leaps from the shadows and pulls a knife on me....or what I'd do if a werewolf cornered me. It's also the part that emerges out of the blue to tell someone off and is snarkier...and it's the part that comes off as arrogant.

Both sides are just as genuine, locked in a balance. We prefer being our light, cheerful side....but the dark antagonistic side is always there when we need it. I've always thought of it as a kind of Jekyll and Hyde thing....except we're aware of both personalities.

[Moby]

I usually not only throw on the extroverted-intuitor persona, but I consciously up the charm. Call it overcompensating, but it usually does the trick of breaking the awkwardness and getting the new acquaintance intrigued and captivated. I'll also set up wierd, manipulative pranks if I know I'm going to meet people. To make friends even easier then I would in a conversation. Tonight was an example.

So I'm taking just one university class this semester. I had emailed the teacher in December telling her if she wanted to convince me to take the course, it would need to end early each class because I get tired. Now, first thing is that teacher wasn't going to convince me to take it until I emailed her as if it were the most natural thing in the world. Somehow she just bought it, and, she said she would do that for me. Why would she actually give me special treatment? I don't know.

Anyways, so a month later it was our first class tonight. An hour in to class, she tells the whole class that "Matt" (my real name) has requested that we always get off early. Of course the other kids are exhausted and happy to leave...it's a night class. I knew that, I had hoped she would remember our 'agreement' and mention my name. The students cheer:

Boom, *hit cymbal* I walked out of the class with 25 new, captivated, friendly acquaintances who wondered how I could make that happen. I got a bunch of contact information, phone numbers, and emails given to me.

But such magic is the life of a confidant ENFP.

[FlipDan]

We're so light and happy and funny and excited, but so deep and searching and interested and yearning that we're actually more complicated than anyone could guess. But it's so simple to us.

I think that was brillianly put. Many people who really get to know me are suprised by the depth I take conversations to.

As for me, with an ESTJ best friend who seems to get along with everyone I kind of put that act on sometimes, especially when talking to people I've never met before in college or at parties.
I tend to be cautious when first talking to people as I don't want to give off too much ENFP crazyness or they might think I'm odd or something

Can be thought of as cocky or down to earth , intellectual or childish, withdrawn or outgoing, it just depends what mood and company you happen to meet me in and how comfortable I feel letting myself out in that company

[Lilsnowy]

yes! My inward cynic is a new personality. I never had that when I was younger, but I'm learning at this late date. But I guess my two primary personalities are the wise christian woman with conventional values, who is deep and down to earth, and works super hard to do everything perfectly, a mom, always looking at God's way and encouraging others in their faith. The other is the wildly child-like, say whatever I want, bouncy, thinks if something is good enough, it's good enough; the effervescent me who I am becoming more of as I get older. They're both real and both true, and I've written it before that they are becoming integrated. I'm leaving the conventional behind in some ways and happier. But I love having so many elements to my personality because it makes life interesting. People see different parts, depending on how we meet, what's goin on etc.

First impressions: I had a job interview yesterday and one of the managers reminded me of a couple of my good friends, and I liked him. There were two for the interview, and we all laughed a couple times during the process and after, I said, "I hope it's ok to say this, but I had fun in there." The one who reminded me of my friends looked down with such an amused smile on his face, I wondered about his type. I said, "I really hope it works out." but even if it doesn't, I know I'll enjoy saying hi to him whenever I see him. I was my effervescent self, but reigned it in like FlipDan mentioned, and really enjoyed my time there. I think we bring a lot of joy to work or anything where we meet new people and people respond to us.

Moby, your dad musta been a terrorist, "cause you are the Bomb!"

[FlipDan]

Boom, *hit cymbal* I walked out of the class with 25 new, captivated, friendly acquaintances who wondered how I could make that happen. I got a bunch of contact information, phone numbers, and emails given to me.

But such magic is the life of a confidant ENFP.

Indeed, when I feel confident enough to be outspoken and interject in conversation I can often find myself in the centre, I think it's just a matter of being confident enough not to worry what people think.

[fangela9]

I was just told by a bunch of people recently that I seem arrogant and also kind of condescending at first!!! That I have a LOT of confidence, and that there is this kind of wall that I put up? Then as you get to know me you start to see the warmth... I feel a lot better after reading you guys' experiences!

I find it so strange though because it seemed to come out of left field and I thought I was the opposite since I easily talk to random strangers and make new friends quickly and easily.

Same here! :)

[Esoteric Enchantment]

Depends on the situation, if we're meeting through friends I'm quiet and aloof however one on one I'm more out there hyper xD

[saffron]

I have no idea since I don't live in their brains. I try not to care and just be how I want to represent myself.

[Gatito Bandito]

So I'm taking just one university class this semester. I had emailed the teacher in December telling her if she wanted to convince me to take the course, it would need to end early each class because I get tired. Now, first thing is that teacher wasn't going to convince me to take it until I emailed her as if it were the most natural thing in the world. Somehow she just bought it, and, she said she would do that for me. Why would she actually give me special treatment? I don't know.

Hate to burst yer bubble...


But:

Odds are, she just wants to get the hell outta there as much as you guys....



Regardless, kudos on the success!