[xdollie.]

I didn't know what else to name this, but I think this issue falls under this category...maybe :)

So um ... I'm a really awkward person when it comes to romance.

Like if someone asks me out I feel all weird and I just have this stupid blank face and dunno what to say o_o. It's so annoying because I feel I'm being immature . Idk how to even explain it...I can be friends with them and it's all good, but as soon as someone tells me they like me, I feel shy and embarassed almost? What's worse is usually because I feel so awkward (and most of the time I don't feel the same) I say no and I feel horrible. It's not even with just friends, anybody really! Even with a guy I kinda like or have had my eyes on, if they ask me out, even then I feel panicked and frozen o_o. Which is dumb. . . because you're supposed to be happy! I'm just so bad at handling these kinda situations, romance in general is awkward for me. It's cute for others :) I love romance movies and it's cute when I see a couple being all "in love" but when it comes to myself? I'm just strange, I don't understand why I'm like this ugh xD. Are there any other ENFPs like that? Or anyone in the universe? I feel so weird! *sniffle*.

[MuChApArAdOx]

As an ENFP i feel awkward when flirted with, or someone showing me direct attention. I know without a doubt i'm also weird and strange, and maybe other ENFP feel this way too. It's interesting and fun if you just fall into a relationship rather than going through the " Will you go out with me thing " ...btw..i didn't think guys still officially asked women out....do they really ?...heh.

Letting people down who are romantically interested whey you're not is touchy. I would suggest not giving false hopes to any guy you potentially think may get the wrong impression. Distance yourself away for a bit, hopefully they will get a clue , this way you don't have to feel bad or awkward about it.

[hmwith]

It's called being a teenager. :)

[xdollie.]

btw..i didn't think guys still officially asked women out....do they really ?...heh.

Yep :) sure do. Some nicer than others, but yes :).

. I would suggest not giving false hopes to any guy you potentially think may get the wrong impression. Distance yourself away for a bit, hopefully they will get a clue , this way you don't have to feel bad or awkward about it.

I do that already, but still feel bad :(. I never give false hope to anyone because that's just cruel and I would hate it if someone did that to me. I just hate saying no to people :( I always feel mean.

[Nafatali]

LOL!! Yes!!! I was like that when I was a teenager!!
When the rumour reached this INTJ that I liked him, I was so incredibly embarrassed. Fortunately for me, he paid it little to no regard and ignored it. I always thought he was cute but not interested... then several months later he approached me out of the blue and I found myself utterly flabbergasted! The awkwardness of it all makes me cringe even today.

I'm not nearly as bad now but it sometimes happens when someone takes my 'friendly, happy, bubbly-ness' as flirting and I actually have no interest in them at all. It happened to me at work not long ago actually, one of my workmates cornered me in the car park and asked me out. I just froze up like a stunned mullet and honestly all I wanted to do right then was jump in the car and drive off at full speed!

[Tridentus]

i don't really know how to handle people coming onto me either.. although as a guy i always put it down to "if i want you ill chase you, you don't need to chase me", wheras many ENFP females are the same but obviously expectations are different as a girl.

i'm also awkward in love, which is especially annoying since i'm attracted to the most romantic types out there.

[Hardstyler]

I'm always awkward socially, romantically and shy which doesn't help. Some people just can't stop being around me. When girl tells me "I like you" it just gives me multiple feelings of shock,awe,and awkwardness and I know this is one of 2 things. They like you as a friend or they REALLY Like you which i can't tell So i think they just want to be friends. I usually can't say something back If i like them I'll just smile and say "I like you too". Especially if its a girl I like I get more shy and awkward =C. When I'm with people I like or care about It's hard enough having feeling about them but when I know they like me as well I just can;t help but my Fi goes into overclock. Sorry I'f i didn't make sense...

[nottie]

This is so true for me! I can be the biggest flirt when it's just for fun, but I shell up the moment it looks serious. I have no idea why. Being asked out is such a scary moment.. I think it's almost easier to be the one to do it. Even when I do like the guy, I get it in my head that it'll all go screwy after the point of no return.. @_@

[cbelle]

Wow, it's really surprising to read all these posts. I have always figured that ENFP's take everything as it comes and are very friendly, nice and know exactly what to say. I thought I was the only awkward one!

I'm no longer nervous when someone asks me out, but if someone I don't like makes advances, I have a hard time telling them no. There are like 5 guys who are pursuing me right now, and I wouldn't start a serious relationship with any of them; however, I like attention enough that I don't really want to hurt them or tell them that it wouldn't work.

@Hardstyler

I know what you mean.

@Nafatali

I have the same problem at work. I just got a new job, and about half of the guys who work there seem to be interested in me. I'm interested in everyone's personality and thoughts, so when I sincerely ask one of the guys how their day went, they light all up. Am I the only one who feels like us ENFP's sweet sincerity is the most attractive part of our personality to the opposite sex? We know how to be funny and sarcastic and all, but we are genuinely interested in other people's lives and the world around us.

[xdollie.]

Wow, it's really surprising to read all these posts. I have always figured that ENFP's take everything as it comes and are very friendly, nice and know exactly what to say. I thought I was the only awkward one!

You literally took the words out my mouth, me too! :D I'm so relieved others feel (or have felt) the same way :). I remember reading another ENFP thread about like flirting and everyone was so smoothe so I figured nobody else would be awkward with romance like me xDD. Especially since when I talk about this to my friends they don't understand :( so I figured, why not post here? :)

@Hardstyler no that makes perfect sense :) I totally know how that is, thanks for sharing!

@Nafatali LOL! Omg. That reminds me of a similar story when a guy found out I liked him >_> jeez. It makes me cringe too! How about that? :)

@nottie yes! that point of no return! I'm sure I've felt like that before :D but I was like: "Wow ok don't scare people now they might think you're just crazy >_>" xD.

It sounds like with a lot of you ENFPS, you eventually grow out of this awkward-ness which is great news :). I thought I was doomed to be like this forever haha! xD.