i met an Irish woman on my travels who was able to relate to me in being totally devoted to finding out how i and other human beings grow and function- she's applied it in climbing her field by knowing how to manage people and i plan to apply it in a career in psychology..
one of several really interesting conversations we had was about finding yourself and as usual she pinpointed exactly my point of view. i've been actively trying to find out who i am for the last few years- i'm sure all ENFPs can relate.. i've experimented with different personnas, and while i know myself better than ever i still have a long way to go. the strange thing is that it feels like a decision- which choice is of course what PROVES who i am, but it's still strange to feel i can pick and choose.
but she said something i already knew and that struck me- you can't reach your maximum as a person until you have made your choice- then you can really zoom ahead and be sure of yourself 100% of the time.. now i'm in no rush to accomplish that- i want to keep my options open for now, and yet i believe once you've settled on who you are that is the moment you are an adult..
how do you view those years in your teens and early twenties? do you relate to me or do you feel like you're being dragged along by what life tells you to be? or some other view?