Confused by Female ENFP

**Zero_Origin** · 12-06-2010 05:16 PM

Alright, I'll admit it: I'm a smitten kitten. Which makes this whole situation kinda frustrating. You see, there's this awesome ENFP (not officially confirmed, but she's textbook in so many ways) that I've gone out on a couple coffee dates with. She knows how I feel about her, and there are enough signs that she is interested in me. However, she made it clear that she wasn't in a place for a relationship at the time, which I accepted (begrudgingly on the inside of course). I gave her space (for what has been a little over a month) until recently she's started alluding to conversations from before, insinuating that she's ready. So I asked her out again, but got politely shot down

I want to believe that she's just struggling to make up her mind (seems like she's been hurt by relationships in the past), but I may have to consider the possibility that she's just craving the attention. Which do you consider more likely from a moderately stressed out/depressed ENFP? Normally I'd just trust my intuition, but my feelings have me second guessing my interpretations of the signs

**Zero_Origin** · 12-06-2010 07:09 PM

Mods, you can delete this post. I got my answer IRL

**StevieRay** · 12-07-2010 12:45 AM

What was the answer?!?!?!?!!?!?! Hope it was good!

**LeahENFP** · 12-09-2010 09:05 AM

She's just craving attention - you are an ego boost that makes her feel desireable.

**Will_Power** · 12-09-2010 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by LeahENFP

She's just craving attention - you are an ego boost that makes her feel desireable.

Hate to say it, but I agree.

**LeahENFP** · 12-09-2010 09:39 AM

I've done it before to many guys... I don't realize I'm doing it at the time, but if I really think about it, I do it for the ego boost.... It's an asshole move on my part, I'll admit.

I promise you if you stop paying attention to her it will drive her nuts! (Don't answer her phone calls for awhile, etc.) ENFPs hate to be ignored! Lol.