My ENFP friend has been lately really down. He has a boring job in a boring company and all of his co-workers seem to be some sort of STJs. He hates his job and it makes him miserable and tired so he doesn't have energy to do any of the things he enjoy and even though he does them he's still so tired that he can't enjoy them. Besides he's a single and that frustrates him also a lot. I don't think that the work is the only thing that brings him down. He's 30 and he still hasn't figured out what he wants to do when he grows up. I think, and he admits this too, that the problem is that he can visualize so clearly in his head the PERFECT life he could have yet the reality isn't like that. Lately he has started to talk about how suicide would be the best option and I'm really worried because he's on my top 5 list of the most awesome persons I've ever met.
So I've been trying to prove him that besides all the sad and shitty things there are also a lot of great things in life. We have now been in an amusement park, played with legos (he loves legos) and tried to get him laid but none of this seems to work. And I'm worried that my attempts to engage him in fun activities will comsume his energy only more. I don't know if the best thing would be to just give him time and space but then I guess being too ignoring isn't a good thing either. So please tell me: if you're in a rut what's the best thing a friend can do for you?