HI even though Iím new to PC Iím hoping you guys are kind enough to help me with my burning question: How can you tell if an ENFP like you in a romantic way or at least fancies you? I am so confused!
Ok so the situation is this. I moved from my house to a house share about 6 moths ago. The landlord lives there to heís 3-4 years older than me. Heís and ENFP and Iím an INFJ and we get on insanely well. We have loads in common, general stuffÖ. food music, hobbies, interest. We are matched in our intelligence, creativity and sense of humour, we have the same laid-back attitude, and we always seem to come to the same conclusions on things. He is so playful and I love it. If were not laughing our socks of at each others jokes, were debating, teaching the other something, playfully bickering, cooking for each other, helping each other out with advise or just listening to what the other has to say. We seem to get into a playful zone where the other housemates are pretty astounded because they have no idea what we are going on about! We look at each other constantly and I can often tell what heís thinking or going to say next.
We seem to be forming a very solid partnership the daily running or the house are done via our behind the scenes partnership
We once had a misunderstanding where we upset each other a little bit; the way we fix it was smooth, efficient, fair and reasonable. He does seem to understand my strange INFJ mind workings or at least he tries! (Wow F-ing wow)
So I like him, considering relationships past that have got to pot, this could be a potential winner! Iím not fizzing with desire because I vowed never to go down the unrequited love rout again, but if potentially the attraction is not unrequited then Iím going for it. If not then im glad to have a great friend and remain unaffected.
Ok potential evidence for (I think)
He has a pet name for his favourite people, I have that name plus he says I am an A* one!
Hes always pleased to see me, if he had a tail it would be wagging like mad
He consults me on a lot of decisions
The strange hug moment we had only known each other for a couple of days.
Heís told me he thinks im very attractive, and intelligent and funny he does try to touch me (but I instinctively pull away a bit)
I get lots xxx on my messages from him, (I think lots of girls do)
Heís likes me to meet and interact with his friends, he evicted this girl at home who made me cry. Hes very strange with me when heís drunk.
He looks at me a lot and there have been a couple of Freudian slips on his part.
He seem impressed with my general kindness and willingness to help things run smoothly for our house and all that live there. he comments on it, he notices what i do and others dont
Against + complications
He seems interested in loads of girls, heís a charmer and heís always going on dates!
Heís in his early 30s and has only ever had 2 relationships that didnít last long, heís so set in his bachelor ways maybe he would notice a woman that screams Ďpotential winnerí even if she lived with him!! The girls he likes arenít like me at all. They are very attractive cool party girls. He seems to be very flirty with everyone. He cant get his hair cut without asking the pretty hairdresser on a date, so why not me?
He seems more interested in the way girls look than their personality so maybe the fact that we click means nothing to him.
Im so confused as to whether Im getting clues or not that I keep shelling up. The way he is I would expect that he woud be very forward and clear if liked me in that way but maybe not? I donít know what the ENFP signs are?
Sorry that was so long. Any thought would very appreciate. x x