[SoftBoiledLife]

It's like asking "Are ISTJs all uptight arseholes?"

I'm sure the world has its share of annoying ENFPs. But it also has some very funny, nice ones who liven up the day for the rest of us.

[SoftBoiledLife]

Do you find that most people once they think they know you find you annoying? Because you might come across as attention seeking and self centred? Do our jokes at ourselves just seem to put people off? Or does the whole world, just not get us?
How do we put ourselves across so that this dosent happen.

To address your concern, I gave up trying to be anyone but myself long ago. There are always going to be people who find me too serious, boring, dorky, geeky, awkward, etc.

But you know what? I don't care! I'm happy with who I am. My only concern is befriending those who accept me for who I am.

[lycanized]

It's like asking "Are ISTJs all uptight arseholes?"

So you're saying that ENFPs are indeed annoying, eh?

[WickedQueen]

My sister is an ENFP and she's not annoying, although I think she's a very spoiled girl. But my ESFP Mom loves to spoil her anyway, so I've got nothing to complain. She and I have a good relationship, although we're not very close. I don't even remember we ever argue about anything.

One of my best friends is an ENFP too. Although he annoy me sometimes with his indecisive attitude, I don't really care. He and I share the same values, we understand each other, and we can have hours and hours of non-stop conversations.

Another friend of mine is also an ENFP. We've been friends since kindergarten, which is 21 years ago. We're not best friends, but we still hang out often and we never had any fight or argument.

[SoftBoiledLife]

So you're saying that ENFPs are indeed annoying, eh?

Damn. I should've combined my two posts answer. Restatement here:



Nope. You have your uptight jerkoff ISTJs (i.e. your bosses) and you have your annoying ENFPs, though truthfully, I don't remember meeting the latter. I only recently started looking at personality types, so there's always a chance I might've met one. Who knows, I guess?

But then Big. Farkin.' Deal!

The world is a large place. You have people of many stripes and colors. You probably have your really decent, well-mannered ISTJs(generally that's what I strive to be) and some really awesome ENFPs around.



And honestly? Most ENFPs I met in my experience were tons of fun to be around. Never a boring day with them.

[difromoz]

Like most have stated; all types can be annoying and perhaps this is a stereotypical assumption about ENFPs because we do tend to go on and on, especially when really motivated / excited / peeved about something / someone. Then to suddenly do that infamous ENFP 180 degree turnaround with real gusto and conviction without any inkling of forewarning…damn how annoying must that be!

I know for a fact that I annoy the crap out of my kids…oops that’s nothing to do with ENFPness but simply the fact that I am a parent to teens.

[SoftBoiledLife]

Like most have stated; all types can be annoying and perhaps this is a stereotypical assumption about ENFPs because we do tend to go on and on, especially when really motivated / excited / peeved about something / someone. Then to suddenly do that infamous ENFP 180 degree turnaround with real gusto and conviction without any inkling of forewarning…damn how annoying must that be!

I know for a fact that I annoy the crap out of my kids…oops that’s nothing to do with ENFPness but simply the fact that I am a parent to teens.

My condolences to your kids...

[pinkrasputin]

My condolences to your kids...

You wait until you have teenagers. You will annoy the crap out them too. My condolences to your kids. No, really.

[SoftBoiledLife]

You wait until you have teenagers. You will annoy the crap out them too. My condolences to your kids. No, really.

That's ASSUMING I have kids!

[Infrared]

I'm probably not the right person to answer this thread, because my mother, is ENFP, so I am biased. My mother is the most annoying person I've ever met. Honestly it's all I can do to be around her for more then 5-10 minutes at a time, when she is being a super ENFP. The most annoying thing about her is that she never shuts up. Major conflict with someone like me who highly values silence. I am very good at tuning her out however. 95% of what she talks about is meaningless, and/or is a repeat of what she just said 10 minutes ago, which makes me tune out even faster. I'm always saying to her, "yeah you told me already". I say that line about 15+ times an hour, and that is usually all I say.

The woman practically has a conversation with herself, because even if on the off chance that I did actually want to say something, I couldn't get a word in edge wise. When that happens I always think to myself, "Why the hell did she even ask me for my opinion in the first place, when she doesn't even listen to it, and talks over me as I'm giving it". It's very rude, and it kind of irks me. It's like she only values what she has to say, and expects you and everyone else to listen so damn intently, and when you don't, oh shit it's on. But it's like, why would I want to listen to you and your crap, when you don't value a damn word that I say, even when you asked for it in the first place. Anyways, I usually just engage the nod and smile, and add a few, "uh huh", "oh really", "yeah", "i see", from time to time, to make her think i'm actually listening to the vocalized diarrhea that is spewing from her mouth.

(I know that's totally mean, but god. If you knew the woman, you would understand wholeheartedly.)