Are ENFPs annoying?

**xezene** · 10-20-2010 08:52 PM

No, you guys are awesome and funny and perfect and yeah! That about says it, doesn't it?

**NyankoLove** · 10-21-2010 10:00 AM

Originally Posted by NyankoLove

I'm not annoying, but I know two other ENFPs who bug the shit out of me. They can never get their life on track and are always soo "dreamy". and so am I, but I at least START something. They just start it in their heads and never get around to it. And after me giving them tons of support, and seeing them do nothing, is just frustrating. They're also annoying because they won't shut the hell up at times. The one ENFP is constantly the source of his own drama with his crazy tantrums, and he could easily get away from the situation that angers him so much if he followed through with his life plans. And the other one is always wanting to be pitied for his disabilities (which I'm sure he only has because he's convinced himself he has them.. ) and he defines himself as his label (he's gay) and it's incredibly annoying how he fits into that cookie cutter mold of flamboyancy. As in, extremely loud, talks all feminine, etc. They're also both bipolar =/

I forgot to mention the gay one also flakes out, constantly. (I've heard this is an ENFP thing. I don't do it though.) He canceled on me like 6 times in a row.. always a different excuse. I was just like, eff that. He'd be the ones making the plans too, so wtf? I think he's manipulative too, but not very good at it. He just has to get his own way.. blah!!! So glad we don't talk anymore.

Oh, I also think it's interesting how the one ENFP guy is gay & the other is bi, because I always hear about how ENFP men are feminine or whatever you call it, and that seems to be the case here.

Originally Posted by Helter Skelter

NyankoLove: They probably bug the shizzle out of you because they cast an highly exaggerated reflection of your own shortcomings. You make an effort to buckle down and start things, but it probably isn't as much as you'd like to be doing. So in a roundabout way, you're being self-critical.

If that were the case, then I would also have the flaws of having a lot of drama, which I'm far from & I don't cancel on plans or talk loudly and incessantly. But you're right, I would rather do more things than I do, but I'm doing a lot for someone my age, so that'd be pretty much impossible unless I wanted to sell my soul.

Anyway, I remembered two more ENFP friends! They don't annoy me at all. One was my best friend, but her parents are way too strict & she always has to work or stay at home taking care of her siblings, so I never see her that much. I freaking love that girl though. Our conversations are just hilarious and when we were younger, we did such fun things. Like, there was this parking lot that would incline downwards & we took a computer chair and both sat on it together and rode down.. you can imagine how that ended. We crashed, hurt ourselves, the chair's wheels went flying, the chair itself went flying, etc. That was such a bad idea, but it was so fun. I think we tried rolling it down a grassy hill too

And my other best friend who is kind of S, but still an ENFP is crazy awesome too. But she is mad flirty [another enfp trait] and that gets her into a lot of problems. Still, she's so great! Whenever I see her, she'll hug me and squeeze me like a tomato

She wants to be an actress or do hair & makeup, which is pretty cool. I dunno.. I guess ENFP's don't annoy me

Maybe I just don't do well with ENFP guys, ha.

**addle1618** · 10-21-2010 02:47 PM

Usually funny, but annoyingly self-centered.

**Socrates** · 10-21-2010 02:57 PM

Yes. ENFPs and ESFJs are two types I wish would all die at the same time and leave the world a better place.

**abitsilly** · 10-21-2010 03:28 PM

HAHA ! maybe you should THINK of a better answer socrates. That could have been hurtful.

**pinkrasputin** · 10-21-2010 03:29 PM

Originally Posted by Socrates

Yes. ENFPs and ESFJs are two types I wish would all die at the same time and leave the world a better place.

So I take that to mean you will stop PMing me. Good.

**MissyMaroon** · 10-21-2010 03:43 PM

I dunno. It doesn't seem to be the case in real life. I know I can be annoying, as I believe anyone can, but I don't feel that it's a trademark trait. Up to the eye of the beholder, right? Texting, email, instant messaging, all forms of online text communication are a different matter. But, whatevz! You'll get along with me just fine!

**Helter Skelter** · 10-21-2010 06:37 PM

Originally Posted by Socrates

Yes. ENFPs and ESFJs are two types I wish would all die at the same time and leave the world a better place.

No, this is interesting. Explain.

---When you're no longer banned, I guess. So shoot me a message, home-slice-chap.

**Paradox1987** · 10-28-2010 08:20 AM

I can see why ENFPs can be seen as really annoying. People can see us as self-centred, because things will amuse us and we love to entertain people. So pointlessly enthusiastic "OMG!! Guess what happened to me..." but the thing that people who don't know us well will tend to assume that we're totally self-absorbed. I often catch myself saying to my friends "I'm so sorry, I haven't asked how you are..." So I can see how that would be annoying. On the flip side, I find that I can just know when things aren't going well for people I'm talking to, and have an uncanny knack of checking in with people that I just feel are having a hard time, and 9/10 times I'm right on the money, and they are feeling down or stressed.

We can actually be the most supportive and interested people in the world. I really wish that more people would realise that whilst I express my opinions and thoughts so openly, I really like it when someone says "that's interesting, but I don't agree because..." and we can have a real exploration of things. When we shine the spotlight on someone else, they are the most interesting person in the world to us at that moment.

On the other hand, we can be so witty and charming that we come across as too intense with some people, who feel that we need to calm down and look at things through perspective. I think it's because we can be so childishly enthusiastic about ourselves or an action that we really piss people off. Also, since our attention span can be rather short, we can easily get bored with someone and we'll flit away from them, which can also come across as annoying. We're good listeners though, we just don't come across as great listeners at times. We can be so random that we either annoy, or captivate. I'm not sure, I guess this might just be me, but I am a very "OTT" individual at times. I can be really happy, really sad. But in terms of personality, I'd say I'm more loyal than annoying... or so I'd like to hope...