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Common things said to ENFP's

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#1 ·
Hello everyone. I was inspired by the INFP forum to post a similar thread about ENFP's. I'll start off: "Dude, you just tire me out" "You think like a girl, man" "Do you like to hear yourself talk or do you just pull random crap out of your butt?" (I replaced the curse words by the way) Post different things that are said to you as ENFP's.
 
#65 ·
"Wow... I've never met anyone like you before!" (I get that about 90% of the time after I meet someone new.)

"You're one of the most inspirational people I've ever met."

"You always find the silver lining."

"Why do you care so much about people?"


"You trust people too easily." (Maybe I do, but I don't like the alternative, so I'll just get my heart broken.)

"You are one of the messiest people I've ever met."

"You're so ambitious for someone so young!"

"You are going great places in your life!"

"There's NO WAY you're actually THAT happy?"

"You're one of the strongest people I know!"

"I don't like your friend, she's gotta be high and phony. 1. no one is that weird/ hyper. 2. No one cares about people that much." A lot of people don't know how to take me. I'm cool with that though, I'd rather be genuine and real. I just have to answer to God at the end of my life.

"You're really weird."

"Who says/ thinks that?"
 
#66 ·
"When I look at you, it somehow brightens my day. You're just contagious, I guess."

"There is no one else like you. The world would be in serious trouble if there was!" (I promptly remind them that there is an entire section of the internet dedicated to people like me. They're usually very surprised.)

"You're too hyper. Calm down and stop babbling so much."

"We've been on the phone for four hours?! I didn't realise we were talking that much."

"You make me happy. You're so inspiring. I like you a lot." I get things like this from people when I first meet them, and sometimes from people I've known for years.


And, the one I got today...

"You're too open with people. Do you know that? You put yourself in everyone's hands and practically trust them with your life. Do you know how hurt you could get?!" This was pretty much told to me in the manner of someone scolding a child for running across the street without looking. It was also told to me by my INTJ room mate. He has trust issues with people.
 
#67 ·
"At least you're passionate about something."
"Sounds like fun! But how are you going to make this happen?" Uhhh...that's your job, obviously!
"Are you high?"
"Whoa...chill out. Stop being so paranoid."
"Are you this happy all the time?"
"I like your random outbursts. It keeps things interesting."
"Do you ever listen?" (after I ask "what?" to something someone says because I feel like I don't hear their meaning well enough)
"You're unique. Don't let anyone change that."
"Obsessive, much?"
"Stop talking and watch the movie!" (I ask questions about what's going to happen in the movie to see if I guessed the outcome correctly.)
"They're only TV characters. Quit over analyzing!"
 
#725 ·
Only TV characters? These people have obviously not seen Supernatural
 
#68 ·
I don't know if it's said to ENFPs often, but today I was asked, "I notice you talk with your hands a lot. If I were to tie your hands behind your back, would you be quieter?" I get asked the most random questions by my ISTJ friends. But I love them all the same. :)

I also tend to get, "I get it. Stop explaining already." Or something like, "I didn't need to know that... Ew..." right after I go a little too far into detail about something I thought was interesting. Perhaps some people don't see the beauty in human reproductive habits? I'm not sure...
 
#71 ·
I love the way you guys "converse". :happy:

I had a friend who was an ENFP and she had talking down to an art form. She would give the backstory, explain why backstory was important, mention people important in backstory who are relevant to her "point", move on to give support for her point and sum up with a thread that tied all those stories together that made you go "OH, I GET it now."

She made me realize that us techies speak like babies with our direct answers like we are children just learning the language.
 
#73 ·
I love the way you guys "converse". :happy:
You do? Most of the time I get shot down for it, or receive a look of long-suffering impatience. Although some find the backstory amusing in itself.

@kaycee: Agreed! Context is vital. :)

Here's something I often hear:

"Late again, eh?"
 
#72 ·
I think people either love or hate the backstory.


I'm always giving those extra details, and some people are just like "GET TO THE POINT!" But, it's like, I am. The story won't make as much sense if you don't know who Lulu's 2nd cousin twice removed neighbor is. :confused:
 
#124 ·
the girl I'm seeing on and off is an INTJ, and she'll get that look about her too. She explained it as being so into listening that other parts of her brain are "on cooldown." I not only believed it and could relate, but I loved how she put it, too.
 
#78 ·
The one INTJ I know well cuts me off constantly and interrupts almost everything I'm saying. He barely listens to me, and it gets frustrating when he stops me in mid-sentence just so he can start a different train of thought. I could understand if he was already in the middle of something, but he rarely is when I start talking to him. A lot of the time, I barely get two words in before he cuts me off, or I say something extremely profound and get, "I'm sorry... I didn't hear a word you just said. Could you repeat that?" It's annoying.

I'm assuming not all INTJs are like that, but I honestly prefer to stick with my ISTJs, thank you very much.
 
#79 ·
Of course not all INTJs are alike but from what I read Ns seem to share a connection.

Sounds like the problem is with the INTJ not being ready to talk. Us techies need lots of downtime to recharge. We might look like we are ready to talk but it can really cripple our communication skills.
 
#80 ·
I miss the relationships I"ve had with 2 INTJs that were very close to me. They found my thoughts fascinating. We could build on each other's ideas. I felt like I could discuss anything in the world with my INTJs. They really respected me intellectually and they always mentioned it. They really made me feel unique in my abilities. Because of that, it challenged me to grow as I believed in myself more.

It's hard when others can't see that side of you. It's like I have a very special gift, that these INTJs could see so clearly. It really felt like someone had given me wings. It's hard not to be respected in the way they respected me. I really miss our discussions. There was so much meat to them. I think we gave each other such a great amount, that to mention it all would go beyond the scope of this thread. But I never felt alone in the world when I had an INTJ in my life.

I also wanted to elaborate on Kaycee's statement about the "background". When telling stories, it's important to me that people understand the context. Plus I need them to experience the story with me the way I experienced it. So I need to reveal things as they were revealed to me. This is how I think I can get them to really relate to my experience.

We are so kooky. :crazy:
 
#83 ·
That's amazing! With the INTJ I know, half the time I get the vibe that you're talking about, and half the time I feel like the person gets frustrated with my "ridiculousness" and wishes I'd just get grounded/grow up/get centered/etc. The unpleasant bit is that I don't know when I'll get one or the other sometimes...
 
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#86 ·
Ooh, this made me think :)

From my closest INFP friends:

"You're crazy. Are you ok? Seriously. Crazy"
"What? Huh? What? How did we get on to that subject? Slow down!"

Also from my INTP friend:

"I think you really need to stop being so over emotional"

typical! :crazy:

I do genuinely get told I'm anything ranging from "Pretty odd" to "Eccentric" from a lot of different people, including my drma teacher. :)
 
#87 ·
the other day, I was talking with an officer from one of my clubs. we were discussing human nature or the way people interact in conversations or something, and one of us said something about how most people just seem to pull things out of their ass. and I was all "lmao yes, that is how I live my life also, I pull pretty much everything out of my ass" and he said "yeah, but you don't have to reach as deep."

so he called me deep by calling me shallow. lmao ; u;



I also hear "you weirdo!" from people a lot. and I've been compared to a puppy or a dog more than once.
 
#93 ·
people often tell me these things:
Wow you confuse me!
You're so cute!
I need to get whatever you're on!
Why are you happy? you just LOST the game!
 
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