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This is a discussion on ENFP's take things personally? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Do you think that ENFP's take criticism constructive or not, to personally?...
Do you think that ENFP's take criticism constructive or not, to personally?
I think a healthy ENFP can take criticism constructively and not be too butthurt about it. We tend not to like criticism at all, but we can take it well and improve on whatever was criticized.
Are you implying that I take everything personally? Why would I do that ? WHY?
When someone constructively criticizes me, I don't hold any grudges against that person in specific, I simply just become disappointed in myself that I couldn't make something, or be perfect the first time around. That's simply because I'm a perfectionist.
I take criticism personally when it is indeed intended to be personal. Those moments when I say something sincere and somewhat emotionally charged and someone else criticizes it simply for the sake of criticism, or spite. That's what hurts.
I can take constructive criticism. Years of various instrument lessons and musical practices have taught me that very well. However, criticism for its sake can rot in hell.
I don't take criticism well because usually I know exactly what I've done incorrectly or just not very well before they tell me. So when they do say "Er, that was ....*criticise*" I agree. And I feel like shit xD I'm always like... "I'm trying my best! Don't say that to me! I know! SHut up! SHUTUP!!!!!!!!" But I never show it...
I am my own worst critic. If someone else points out something, I have always noticed it first so I don't get angry at the person, I get angry at myself for letting someone else notice that I haven't been perfect. So um. I'm not sure what to make of that, other than I'm obviously a bit hard on myself and a bit too desperate to be ABSOLUTELY PERFECT ALL THE TIME OMG!11!11!
Basically, if I get criticised, my self worth drops through the floor and I go home and cry and get angry because I'm so desperate to be perfect. Even though I know perfection is an ideal and I can only be the best I can be xD
But I don't think that's particularly characteristic for an ENFP. I'm just unhealthy, obsessive and perfectionistic. Loly
It all depends on motive for it. Who is doing this constructive criticizing? Are they truly trying to help, or just feel superior? Is there any merit to what they are saying, or are they just saying it because I'm different than they are in my approach? Also HOW they say it is important too.
LOLZ!! Yes, yes I am. How can you be like that how? Jk :DOriginally Posted by Coco
Are you implying that I take everything personally? Why would I do that ? WHY?
Umm I don't think that anyone can have a totaly non biased view of them self all the time to the point where you would know exactly what you did wrong at all times EVER. Everyone has blind spots, even you. But, that's okay. NOBODY is perfect! I know that totally sucks to hear.
I think she realizes that. If any personality type realizes that, the ENFP does. It's more how it's delivered than what is delivered.
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