This is a discussion on Signs an ENFP likes you? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by BlueCows Depends how much attention I'm getting back. Are you wondering about a particular person? :P I ...
I've been married for awhile and have calmed down and become more guarded as I have gotten older, but my ENFP signs of attraction have always been obvious: I will have energy that is palpable. I will be excited without understanding what is happening sometimes, because it's pure chemistry. I will be "sparkling." I will ultimately verbalize how much I like you. If we have met before I will see you in a crowd and zoom over. I will want to talk to you alone. I will want to talk to you, period. I will touch your arm or maybe push you playfully. I will be sincerely fascinated with you and want to understand you.
The flip side is that I may slow down and become more measured and calm. Today I may look for an escape if I feel strongly and inexplicably drawn to someone.
Historically I'm drawn to introverts for friendship and love. I tend to excite introverted men. (They tend to calm me down when we get to know each other, which I appreciate.) I adore my opposite sex friends, and it may look like attraction, but I will know the difference. I will think about you all the time. I will write about it. I will say your name often when I talk to you. I will want to put my arms around you.
Do any other ENFPs share these behaviors?
Signs an ENFP likes you...
Warning: I can only go from my experience here. Other ENFPs might be different. I'm more a of shy ENFP.
1. Different around you. I'm pretty friendly with everyone. If I have a crush on someone, I may be more reserved around them and seem less friendly as I'm more worried about what they'll think of me. (this can be difficult to detect though)
2. Watches you a LOT when you aren't looking. This may seem a little creepy, haha, but it's true. The ENFPs that I know, including myself, all do this. We'll watch the person when they don't notice because we want to know everything we can about them.
3. Will try to always be in the group you are in or sit near/next to you.
4. Compliments you a lot. I compliment everyone. ...but my crush? My crush will probably get 3x as many compliments. I will LOOK for things to compliment them on.
5. Is always asking how you are, how your weekend was, etc. ...and actually wants to know!! Try giving a more in-depth response and seeing if they are truly interested or not.
6. Remembers details that you don't even remember giving. Heck, I'll even write the tiniest things down about a person so I don't forget what they told me. Maybe that's just me though...
7. Angles their feet/body/etc towards you. Pay attention to their body language.
Most of these things apply to friends as well, but are most intensified towards crushes. ENFPs make it super difficult for you to tell if they like you or not. Sorry. Most of the time, this is because they are afraid of being rejected and simply want to be liked by all. They don't want to ruin a friendship by telling you that they like you and having you reject them and treat them differently.
One thing you can do, is be completely honest with them. If I don't like someone and they tell me that they like me, I see it as a compliment. I'll turn them down politely and kindly. I won't think of them any differently or stop being friends with them. In fact, ENFPs LOVE it when people are honest with them about their feelings. Even if he/she doesn't like you back, I don't think your friendship will be ruined. Being honest and just telling them may even make you better friends. ...if you can handle just being friends. :)
I'm so not an ENFP. What personality type should I try next?
Nup, not at all.2. Watches you a LOT when you aren't looking. This may seem a little creepy, haha, but it's true. The ENFPs that I know, including myself, all do this. We'll watch the person when they don't notice because we want to know everything we can about them.
when I was really young, yeah.3. Will try to always be in the group you are in or sit near/next to you.
I never (very rarely) give compliments. It's not me at all.4. Compliments you a lot. I compliment everyone. ...but my crush? My crush will probably get 3x as many compliments. I will LOOK for things to compliment them on.
I ask them how they're going, but those sorts of things are just conversation starters and if they rattle off about themselves I get really bored. I do tend to be interested in finding out common interests and stuff though, and seeing if there are things we can talk about for hours on end (typically ideas).5. Is always asking how you are, how your weekend was, etc. ...and actually wants to know!! Try giving a more in-depth response and seeing if they are truly interested or not.
No way, I remember nothing about people.6. Remembers details that you don't even remember giving. Heck, I'll even write the tiniest things down about a person so I don't forget what they told me. Maybe that's just me though...
Think this is pretty normal for any type.7. Angles their feet/body/etc towards you. Pay attention to their body language.
Sorry BeautifullyFlawed to use yours as an example seeing as you particularly said that everyone is different. It was just examples as to how I'm not so ENFP-ish in those ways. plus I dont' do hugs and niceities, and teddy bears and hearts and flowers, and presents I couldn't care less about (I don't even know if you guys do presents, I just made that up), and all those sorts of things. A couple of ENFP things about me are that my clothes rarely match (ok, I did read that somewhere, and if it's true I fit), and also I am very affirming. Ok, so I probably am one, I'm just not a very nice one (apart from the affirming thing), nor a very 'love pretty things' one. i'm more of a practical person, and although I like things to look nice around me, I wouldn't bother posting a nice picture on someone's facebook page, for example. Sorry, also ahh.. rather depressed at the moment. aka grieving
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