[GreenCoyote]

We had a thread similar to this over in the INFJ forum, about what men look for in women.
I am curious however to what the gay ENFP thinks of other men.



what seems to be your position in the relationship... not that position!
lol

[lycanized]

I'm gonna answer anyway hehe
1. artistic/creative
2. Not overly superficial... individualistic and not into what's popular
3. Someone who has my same outlook on life and the world--I don't want to get into too much detail with that xD
4. Someone who is slightly laid back and will have fun rather than worrying about work too much
5. Someone who will encourage me to be myself...I will do the same

[Nicomachean]

1. Kind, and polite to others / sense of manners.
2. Excited and willing to do new things with me.
3. Intelligent, but they don't have to be book smart -- at least have some sort of "speciality" they are really knowledgable in.
4. Good sense of humor, very laid back relaxed attitude.
5. Good looking / nice face.

[Mogey]

1. Self awareness and security in yourself. Love who you are, I hate the term 'discretion.'
2. Know what you want and ability to commit. This includes a monogamous outlook; no 'open relationships.'
3. Reciprocation and capability to communicate feelings, most important for me. If it's 'hard to explain' then we're going to have some problems. :(
4. I don't want to hear about your past sexual conquests. Furthermore, a provocative introduction is not a good way to grab my attention.
5. Someone who can reel me in if I get overly emotional or feeling fight or flight. Who can roll with my punches.
6. Respectful to others, maybe a bit altruistic.
7. Someone who won't raise their voice or lay a hand, as I never would.
8. Honesty. This is your true pass or fail.
9. Not overly materialistic or superficial. Enjoy the simple things. Gummy Bears beats blue suede shoes on any day.
10. A sex drive. Wut, don't judge me!
11. Ambitious and have a dream. Learn and grow in life with me.
12. Attention. Especially for social butterflies, I don't like to feel ignored. Vice Versa, especially for introverts I want to introduce you to everyone I know so be ready.
13. See the world. If you haven't tasted independence or seen the world outside of a sheltered box I can't expect you to be in tune with me and life's trials.
14. Shared hobbies. Show an appreciation for the things I like and join in as well as trying new things.
15. Someone frugal. I don't keep a list and can lose my $$ in an instant.
16. Touch. Accept that I can be smothering.
17. Flight. If you're always running away from feelings, situations, something/anything and also absolutely refuse conflict, you're just setting me up for a heartbreak. Man up or spare me the burden of investing too much too soon.
18. Tipping. How you tip a waiter tells me a lot.

I'm in an amazing relationship with an INFP, and couldn't be happier. We're perfectly attuned to each other. A genuine sweetheart; love him to pieces.

[TakeSomeEntropy]

I look for:

1. intelligence: a real potential for awesomeness
2. open-mindedness: ability to see different perspectives and willingness to explore the universe with me
3. maturity: self-awareness, varied life experiences, self-confident
4. intensity of character: passion (even if hidden), unwavering personal drive , commitment to shared values and to other people
5. sexually repressed... :)

Oh... and...

0. Authenticity. Genuineness. Realness.

[Dylio]

1. Kind, and polite to others / sense of manners.
2. Excited and willing to do new things with me.
3. Intelligent, but they don't have to be book smart -- at least have some sort of "speciality" they are really knowledgable in.
4. Good sense of humor, very laid back relaxed attitude.
5. Good looking / nice face.

I can be your prince charming ;)

[Dylio]

I'm not am ENFP, but I LIKE DUDES! Let's give this a shot,

1. Someone who will laugh at all (or at least most) of my stupid jokes/ things I say. I think I'm fricken hilarious, my SO better too!

2. Someone who has a compassionate side to them that understands there's more to life than their own little world.

3. I'm attracted to successful people and people who desire success. If you're living in an apartment in a sketchy part of town and working at Future shop, totally content with where you are in life... You're not for me.

4. Someone who is willing to motivate me, or at least not bring me down.

5. I need a person who I can come home to every night and tell them I love them, who I can cuddle, cook amazing meals for, give massages to, and have them be fine if I say I'm "not in the mood" if it's past 11pm and I have to wake up at 6:30am.

Am I asking for too much!?

[cue5c]

Character
I like people who are more than just another person. When they're talking you get a real sense of who they are. I tend to fall for geeky or artistic guys.

Intelligence
I have to be able to hold a conversation. If I'm interested in something for more than a couple days, it's a good idea to check out what I'm excited about because it'll be a topic I turn to for a while. Having original ideas that make me question my own while allowing me to question theirs is crucial.

Compassion
They have to genuinely care about people, whether they're conscious of it or not. How they treat animals is a big indicator of how they'll be. I have a lot of emotional baggage, as well, so they have to be able to listen to what I say and then let go. Usually I just need to vent and then I feel better without it becoming a huge deal. It's why INxJs are really great.

Physical
This is big and unimportant at the same time. There obviously has to be an attraction, but I've found that people I'm not attracted to can become very attractive if I get to know and enjoy their personality. Faces are more important than body, but voice is a huge factor as well. I don't really like generic "guy" voices so anything that sounds slightly out of the ordinary works for me.

Fulfillment
You've gotta enjoy being with whoever it is you're seeing or else there's really no point. A little mystery goes a long way, but being able to show that you enjoy time with me helps my confidence. If I can take off my mask with you, nothing else matters.