Today I was thinking about something that happens to me all the time and I wonder if other ENFP's on here recognize that. Or that others have had these experiences with ENFP's too.
When I was younger I always had tuns of friends and the silly thing was that loads of these people repeatedly shouted: 'OMG!!! We're so much alike!!!'. After some time I started thinking: 'My freakin' God, this isn't healthy. Everybody thinks he or she is just like me, that can't be true'. Especially since I often deep down inside didn't agree with those people about a LOT of things. I wondered for a loooong time what it is what makes people say that 'we're so much alike' and this morning it just struck me.
Maybe I relate too much to people. Maybe I find myself too often saying:
'Hmmm, oh yes... Hmmm. Yeah, I can totally understand you feel that way!'
Because I want to help them or give them the feeling they're worthwile or something like that. But when I am totally honest with myself, about 80% of the time I think: 'You're talking total crap.'
But of course I will never say that, just go figure people should think I'm evil or something like that. I do think there's a good side to inspiring people and make them feel good about themselves, but there need to be some boundaries. I should try not to be a total cameleon, sometimes people just need to know that they're being stupid. And I should also not try to see total negative people, they're really a waste of my energy, since I'm working twice as hard to get their negativity away, untill they're at the point that they hysterically start screaming: 'Oh, you and me! You understand me so well! We're so much alike!.
Yeez, I think I just found out why some people think I'm their best friend while I'm most definitely not.
Does this sound familiar to any of you?