[Pilgrim]

So I realize a lot of my ENFP brothers and sister are prone to suppressed anger.

We don't like conflict or criticism yet we can see so clearly everything that's wrong with the world.

Personally I would never like to explode at someone because I know just how damaging my temper can be, especially since I know exactly where to hit.

but if I can't do that what can I do?

It's been too long that I've been letting it sit deep inside and fester and destroy my relationships but I feel stuck in that I'll end up destroying them if I do express it.

So with that in mind, anybody got any suggestions for me?

I'm tired of sitting back and letting shit go unnoticed and I feel too guilty to really crush someones universe.

...maybe I'm just blowing things out of proportion :/

[Tridentus]

i don't really understand. if i have that much anger toward someone i'd decide that it isn't worth it anymore with that person.

[lycanized]

I usually try to keep my temper down...and I do know exactly where to hit someone where it will hurt the most. I've tried to talk to peoplee about what's bothering me. The most important thing to me is to make a relationship last and make it to where we're in good standings to be in a relationship long. I've occasionally blown up in the past, and I do say extremely hurtful things that I end up regretting...and then I feel extremely angry at myself. All in all, I have tried and will always try to talk things out with people if something's bothering me...I really don't like unresolved problems and conflicts, but I don't think you need to get angry to solve them

Like Tridentus said, if it's someone who's just not good for you, it's not worth it because relationships should make you happy

[Pilgrim]

I usually try to keep my temper down...and I do know exactly where to hit someone where it will hurt the most. I've tried to talk to peoplee about what's bothering me. The most important thing to me is to make a relationship last and make it to where we're in good standings to be in a relationship long. I've occasionally blown up in the past, and I do say extremely hurtful things that I end up regretting...and then I feel extremely angry at myself. All in all, I have tried and will always try to talk things out with people if something's bothering me...I really don't like unresolved problems and conflicts, but I don't think you need to get angry to solve them

Like Tridentus said, if it's someone who's just not good for you, it's not worth it because relationships should make you happy

you're right, something just clicked there.

i need to talk it out with these people, let them know how i really feel.

it's just that everytime i even think about the problem i start seeing red. so i think i'm gonna work on releasing this pent up aggression first then move on to the diplomacy :)


ps. the aggression isn't against anyone specific just this trend i've been seeing a lot of lately.

i can't even tell if it's something with them or me... altough i'm starting to realize its probably more with me.