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This is a discussion on Are ENFP's the happiest MBTI type? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by NaughyChimp REally? I thought they seemed to have strong melancholy streaks... i was trying to be clever. ...

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by NaughyChimp View Post
    REally? I thought they seemed to have strong melancholy streaks...
    i was trying to be clever. haha.

    I know an ENFP and whenever we start talking about something negative she will switch topics to something more cheery. When we first met I brought up a bad experience she had with one of my friends, and she switched the topic to something else, and me being drunk at the time, brought it up again and she told me very sternly that she didn't want to talk about it because it would ruin the rest of her night. I've learned how to interact with her now. A year having known her and she still hates talking about anything negative, which is kind of a bummer because it seems like I can't share anything negative either.

    If someone was to bring up a touchy topic with me, I'd actually feel more inclined to talk about it as a way to get it off my chest. I like sharing my vulnerabilities with someone, it's part of the bonding process for me. At the same time I can understand how certain topics can make one feel down, but I don't really shy away from that, where as most people avoid it like the plague.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Acey View Post
    I always thought INFPs seemed like the happiest type.
    They're the type most likely to commit suicide, along with INTPs. (hang on in there guys life is generally good)

  3. #13
    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Neurasthenia View Post
    I would say no way. The ENFPs I know have shared their dark sides with me and they are expansive... I'd say they're very good at being enthused though in social settings. They are fun, exuberant people. But they do have a dark side (and who does not?).
    This. Pretty much. I might seem happy, but crack me open and take a look on the inside and you'll not find sunshine and rainbows in there. I can guarantee you that much. ;)
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    I'm not always happy. In fact I've been very depressed in the last week. I think Fi can make us incredibly sad and depressed and yet come off as happy. It's not as obvious to others if we're unhappy.

    I personally don't think there is a happiest type. Everyone has emotions and problems and everyone can become depressed. I think NFs are slightly more likely to be depressed actually because they're more likely to have trouble finding kindred spirits who understand how they think and they're just so darn sensitive. But I also know an ESTJ who went through a bout of depression recently so happiness doesn't have to do with type.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Quote Originally Posted by Acey View Post
    i was trying to be clever. haha.

    I know an ENFP and whenever we start talking about something negative she will switch topics to something more cheery. When we first met I brought up a bad experience she had with one of my friends, and she switched the topic to something else, and me being drunk at the time, brought it up again and she told me very sternly that she didn't want to talk about it because it would ruin the rest of her night. I've learned how to interact with her now. A year having known her and she still hates talking about anything negative, which is kind of a bummer because it seems like I can't share anything negative either.

    If someone was to bring up a touchy topic with me, I'd actually feel more inclined to talk about it as a way to get it off my chest. I like sharing my vulnerabilities with someone, it's part of the bonding process for me. At the same time I can understand how certain topics can make one feel down, but I don't really shy away from that, where as most people avoid it like the plague.
    To be honest I'm like you. I like to share my vulnerabilities with others. I just have to be very careful of who I share them with. But ENFPs vary like the color red.... It's all red, just different shades.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Thanks everyone for your feedback on this!

    I definitely agree that any type can be “happiest type” because we do create our own happiness. This is true. There really is no definitive way to judge that kind of thing.

    I also agree that ENFP as group can APPEAR to be the happiest… well, except for maybe, ESFP…. But underneath there is a lot more going on.

    It really comes down to how you cope with the setbacks in life. Tragic events, loss of a loved one, heartbreak, disappointments..etc

    Some personalities take these events harder than others and are more prone to dwell on the negatives. This is naturally going to make you less happy.

    I find that I have a specific coping mechanism. I allow myself to cry but then I get back up again. I don’t stay in that place. I kind of put it in a mental file cabinet and close it. (Whether or not this is the healthiest thing… not sure) Then I choose to focus on the things in life I’m grateful for, the things I’m happy about… I push that into the center and don’t allow myself to go into that dark place. I don’t like the way I feel when I go there. I don’t enjoy that feeling. That dark side is still there, lurking in the basement of my consciousness. It can easily access it, but I prefer not to. Sometimes I worry that I won’t be able to keep storing stuff there in that dark basement. It’s going to spill over and I’m going to have a breakdown. At face value, people have commented “you’re the happiest person I know” and I have to confess that I have used my smile as a shield.

    On the flip side I sincerely DO have a great deal of happiness in my life.

    When I’m in the moment, I’m truly happy and life is essentially a series of moments.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Interesting. I think ESTPs, ESFPs, and ENTPs all appear to be happy at least as much.

    As far as...this whole thing, I don't know. I think it's that ENFP emotions are INTENSE and only the happy ones are regularly verbalized.

    As far as dwelling vs. popping right back up, I wish I didn't, but in all honesty, I do dwell sometimes.

    Like @Belovodia said, I think this is more an Enneagram thing.

  9. #18
    ENFP - The Inspirers


    Actually, ENFPs are some of the darkest people I know. It's just that we don't let our darker views on reality get us down. We see those views as fact, they can't be changed, so why bother worrying about it when instead we can enjoy ourselves?

  10. #19
    INFJ - The Protectors

    I have a pretty unhealthy ENFP friend... she seems really happy and bubbly all the time (a bit dumb, too- no offense, God bless her soul- just ...naive ) but I know deep down she's extremely angry, sad, and she doesn't know or believe in herself. Two years ago especially was a turbulent time- I was practically her psychiatrist- suicidal... rather depressed... confused... insecure. No, I do not think ENFPs are the "happiest type" nor do I think any type can be classified as the "happiest" for that matter. I can understand how many ENFPs come off as happier than most for longer amounts of time.... if that's what we're getting at here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Solar Storm View Post
    Actually, ENFPs are some of the darkest people I know. It's just that we don't let our darker views on reality get us down. We see those views as fact, they can't be changed, so why bother worrying about it when instead we can enjoy ourselves?
    We can let it get us down, although we have the ability through Fi to keep it hidden. ENFP for that reason are very hard to read. Our outer persona's wont' always reveal what is going on internally, so sometimes people can be quite shocked/or they catch us off guard and see a particular reaction, or maybe verbal response. You might find them saying " Oh, WHAT, really. ENFP can reveal or hide as little or as much as they choose. People who know us well aren't confused about our persona's, its the people who don't that will be puzzled/confused/frustrated.

    IDK, in some strange way the dark side is the sunny side, i find solitude and happiness often there
    Leave me in a house by myself without sound researching morbid things and ask me if i'm not happy ;) delighted really .
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