I'm ENFJ My ENFP means the world to me, we often get into fights because I'm so pushy, and he hates feeling like his freedom is being taken or that I'm trying to control him. But I'm not trying to push him or control him - I love his free spirit! And don't want to /make/ him do anything. I just want to show him all the reasons why my way makes more sense; but that doesn't mean he has to pick it. Id like to be heard out without him automatically shutting out me out. But since that seems too hard and I really don't want to be /pushy/ (what's attractive about that anyways? Nothing.) Does anyone have any ideas of how to replace my impulse to push, that isn't destructive?