[licnep]

My enfp sister is in hysterics right now, do any of you guys know how I can calm her down?

[pinkrasputin]

My enfp sister is in hysterics right now, do any of you guys know how I can calm her down?

More details please. Usually a night out does the trick. But I really do need to know more details so I can further help you.

[licnep]

Details hmmm... she's 12 and Im not exactly sure whats going on. I had to reheat the food I made for her and then she refused to eat it. Now shes claiming that her whole life is ruined because well I dont exactly know I honestly do not understand her, I love her so much shes my sister but I have no idea how to calm her down.

Sorry I didnt give many details, I dont exactly know why shes so upset.

[DJArendee]

boyfriend dump her? has she been kooked up in the house too long? does she need to be set free? did she step on a thumb tack? have you asked her why she's berserk?

[licnep]

boyfriend dump her? has she been kooked up in the house too long? does she need to be set free? did she step on a thumb tack? have you asked her why she's berserk?

Haha I think if I asked why should would lash out at me further. Shes a bit calmer now though... apart from sulking. I think she might have just been stressed, not sure why though, so she decided to take her anger out on me.

[pinkrasputin]

Haha I think if I asked why should would lash out at me further. Shes a bit calmer now though... apart from sulking. I think she might have just been stressed, not sure why though, so she decided to take her anger out on me.

Sometimes you gotta let them just "feel" it and get through it.

My daughter is 12 going on 13. It's tough for them right now with hormones and all. She is currently testing as an ENFP, too. I have to not take her "rants" that personally. She doesn't do this very often. Matter of fact I can only think of one time just recently. But I just backed away, went into my room. I let her have it out with herself. I have heard her shout something THAT I KNOW she will regret later after she cools down. I just don't engage.

Then she cools off and comes to me in tears and says "I'm sorry mommy." We hug and THEN we can talk about things.

[licnep]

Yeah I think thats probably the best advice and she probably does have a lot of hormones right now. She really is a very sweet sister and I love her so much I just wish I had a bit more tact when she gets like this, I tend to put my foot in my mouth and say the stupidest things.

[vivalamusica2012]

Oh, I used to do this at that age. :(
She's probably just stressed. Also, misunderstandings really upset me more than most; it could be the same for her. Let her pout and then talk about it later or just let it go.

[Tridentus]

it'll be something people oriented. when i was that age i was all about the drama, just ignore her and ask her why she was like that tommorow, she'll probably spill her gut out about something or another. either that or shrug if she realises that she was overdramatic.