[remer]

Do you also feel that being around other people, listening to them, taking care to fulfill their needs distracts you of being you? Doing what you feel has to be done?



Has there been anyone in your life who really understood you, that this person decided to truly leave your side, all knowing that this could be the only way for you to realize not to care too much anymore about that person and do what you feel you really must do. Has there been one for you?

I know one person, and I realize now that this person is a love of my life. I will never forget her. And will take her with me, to whatever end. But first there is much work, I have to attend. In my heart I know what I am meant to do.

Have you ever had this feeling?

[susurration]

Do you also feel that being around other people, listening to them, taking care to fulfill their needs distracts you of being you? Doing what you feel has to be done?

Yes, all the damn time and I enjoy it. I get very emotionally involved in people. But only a few... because it takes too much out of me. I like sitting outside of myself.

Has there been anyone in your life who really understood you, that this person decided to truly leave your side, all knowing that this could be the only way for you to realize not to care too much anymore about that person and do what you feel you really must do. Has there been one for you?

No, but I have walked out of two peoples lives for that reason. I felt like it had to be done. They had to forge their own path separate from me. I felt like I wasn't doing them anymore favours in the long run. They prized our relationship over their own growth.. I couldn't sit around and watch them slip away.

I know one person, and I realize now that this person is a love of my life. I will never forget her. And will take her with me, to whatever end. But first there is much work, I have to attend. In my heart I know what I am meant to do.

[pinkrasputin]

Do you also feel that being around other people, listening to them, taking care to fulfill their needs distracts you of being you? Doing what you feel has to be done?

Oh yes.

Has there been anyone in your life who really understood you, that this person decided to truly leave your side, all knowing that this could be the only way for you to realize not to care too much anymore about that person and do what you feel you really must do. Has there been one for you?

Yes.

I know one person, and I realize now that this person is a love of my life. I will never forget her. And will take her with me, to whatever end. But first there is much work, I have to attend. In my heart I know what I am meant to do.

I will not forget someone either. But I have to let them go. At this point I can only integrate them into my soul.

Have you ever had this feeling?[/QUOTE]Definitely. You are not alone.

[Arioche]

Do you also feel that being around other people, listening to them, taking care to fulfill their needs distracts you of being you? Doing what you feel has to be done?

lol, all the time. I've always admired, even romanticized, self sacrifice, and thus cast away who I really am, what I really should be doing, etc. for that person. Perhaps it's my Knight Complex, but if someone needs help, I feel personally responsible to help them out, even if I don't know that person very well. I also am very emotional, and often emphasize with a person to the point I take their problems personally (This is multiplied with how much I care for that person). Most of the time, doing something for someone brings me much more pleasure (and the feeling of having a meaning) than if I do anything for myself.

Has there been anyone in your life who really understood you, that this person decided to truly leave your side, all knowing that this could be the only way for you to realize not to care too much anymore about that person and do what you feel you really must do. Has there been one for you?

Frankly, no. But there has been very rare occurrences of someone understanding a tiny piece of myself, or seeing through a facade I happen to put up. If this was followed by acceptance, I am often filled with thoughts of appreciation, amusement, and affection for that person. However, I have had many instances of separating myself from someone when I saw that it was for the better. I also often veil my real self out from them "for their own good". Over time, I've come to realize that most of the time, this is a selfish and self-righteous action on my part.

I know one person, and I realize now that this person is a love of my life. I will never forget her. And will take her with me, to whatever end. But first there is much work, I have to attend. In my heart I know what I am meant to do.

Have you ever had this feeling?

I don't believe in the prospect of there being a "one", but if you feel this way, I wish you all the luck in the world. <3 It is a wonderful thing to find someone you can love with all of your heart, cherish it. :3