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ENFPs, What are the most messed up things you have done?

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#1 ·
I will go first.

My ISFP cousin once had a hamster a few years ago she absolutely adored. And whenever I see something cute, furry, squishy, etc, I have this sudden urge to want to assault and harm it in some way just to feel a euphoric adrenaline.
It's the same feeling of when I see a hermit crab, I want to rip the crab out of its shell because it likes to hide in the shell and cannot live without it.

Well, her hamster was...Adorable to say the least and so I thought it would be fun to drop it from a balcony. When she wasn't looking, I did just that.
My cousin screamed and rushed downstairs only to find the hamster bleeding to death.
They had to bury it a few minutes later and her friends started shunning me.

And so to not appeared messed up and not be hated, I cried crocodile tears and claimed that it was an 'accident' until they believed me so that I was seen in good favor again.
 
#2 ·
Wow, that one act has me feeling like every bad act I've done is child's play, in other words, brutal.

But in recent memory, from my more immature days, I completely ignored a friend that tried getting too close to me, too quickly. I mean one week he was a stranger and the next week he walked in on me while I was sleeping, that's what happens when you forget to lock the door at night. I couldn't endure this invasion of privacy repeatedly (Si) and proceeded to lock him out. Figuratively and literally. A person I look up too once told me (I suspect he is an ENFP as well, life has been hard on him) the definition of respect is attention, and to deprive a baby of attention to leave the baby to die, so I essentially did just that. I chuckle back at the experience now (for some fucked up reason) but he did not react well. I'm talking he put his face as close to mine without touching me, texted me intensely and hourly, swore that he would get me back for this and got sadder and sadder, I essentially cut him off in about a month. Needless to say, I started talking back with him about a month after I stopped, bridges rebuilt, wounds healed, etc. Oddly enough, at the time none of my friends liked him, but I saw the lonely side of him often, so I took him under my wing. Today he's much more mature, a bit more calm, and claims me as his best friend openly, while I still just regard him as a close friend, which is a cruel act in itself, I guess.
 
#4 · (Edited)
When I was younger and dumber I charmed away a girl from a friend of mine. She had low self-esteem and I could sympathize, so I would compliment her and generally try to be kind. I was honestly just trying to be nice, but then things sort of escalated. I'd never been in a romantic relationship with anyone before that point (childhood bullshit destroyed my social confidence, long story), so when we grew closer it just felt right, more right than the feeling wrong screwing over my friend did. I was so damn lonely and she would say how my friend never said the things to her that I did, even as just general compliments...

In the end I lost the friend and the girl. Things withered with the friend quickly, and I felt enough shame I never attempted to rebuild ties. The girl, as young and even dumber than I was at the time, lied about important things and the relationship turned sour. She was how I learned that even if you want to help people you have to beware getting dragged into their shit. By the time I broke things off she'd honestly crossed the line with me enough that I hated her. I think I still do honestly. The stuff w/ her and some poor attempted relationships afterward have left me with hangups I'm still trying to get over.

The whole thing was a valuable learning experience, but I still feel regret at what I did. In retrospect the friend was honestly a bad person who I was better off without, but that doesn't excuse betraying him. Kind of appropriate I would up using the name Cain.
 
#5 ·
I was 18 and I fell in love with an older woman, a single mother. Everything happened so quickly, this wasn't long after a breakup from a big relationship (which she encouraged me to do). We got together and jumped right in the deep end of 'I love you.' We lasted a few months before she told me she had cancer. It was kind of a wake up call that my rebound was not only a single mother and the kids could get attached but dying... I bailed, I couldn't handle that pressure when I was still a student even. She didn't have family support because she was a teen mum and had basically been kicked out of the family. Obviously she cut me out of her life after that and there was no way I could ever check up on her to see if she was okay.

I never told anyone about that. I never even told my friends I was in a relationship with her. I often try to pretend it ever even happened.
 
#8 · (Edited)
I'm an ENFP with a high tendency of being an attention whore. I generally make friends by looking fun and cool at a distance (which I totally am btw) and then once someone tries to make conversation, I get them to like me by being funny. However, and I feel really guilty about this, but whenever I get the feeling that someone may be giving me the cold shoulder, my rampantly suspicious Ne dictates that something had pulled us apart and I begin the process of pretending I don't know them and have never known them while appearing fun from a distance just to make them crave my attention. I've done this twice or thrice to decent success. I've repaired my ego in this way before after being rejected.

EDIT: Forgot to mention another one of my tendencies. Whenever I feel like I'm not leading a conversation within a group with people I want to impress, I'll subtly start batting the conversation leader out or form a new conversation with the people I want to get a good impression of me.
 
#11 · (Edited)
When I was about five, my brother made a huge lego Millennium Falcon ship. He spent about 2 weeks with it and I decided that play time definitely on. A few minutes playing with that ship and I broke it. Damn, I felt so bad I hid in the closet. His face of pure horror :unsure:

I was really mischievous as a young'n. Not the first time either that I did that to his legos. He probably wanted to kick my ass.
 
#13 ·
One of my ENFP friends lives abroad. When she finished high school she took a long trip through Europe with one of her friends and one of the stop points was where I lived. I hadn't spoken much with her for a year or so. I picked them up when they arrived and the first thing she said was, "you know what? We smuggled pot illegally into Germany from Amsterdam! Hahaha! It was an accident, we just didn't notice it in the bag! hahaha! We could have been caught and jailed and everything! hihihi! ah, good times. What are you up to?" while I just stared at her in complete shock.
 
#14 ·
one of my enfp friends lives abroad. When she finished high school she took a long trip through europe with one of her friends and one of the stop points was where i lived. I hadn't spoken much with her for a year or so. I picked them up when they arrived and the first thing she said was, "you know what? We smuggled pot illegally into germany from amsterdam! Hahaha! It was an accident, we just didn't notice it in the bag! Hahaha! We could have been caught and jailed and everything! Hihihi! Ah, good times. What are you up to?" while i just stared at her in complete shock.
lolololol
 
#19 ·
I had an ex who got their title stuck up their ass. I kinda said some not so nice things along the lines of their belonging to a little pretentious snob society of upper elites of wannabe higher "echelons." (Aka greedy drones)

They made some really effed up racist remarks on eugenics, and I put that narc into their place. You would think for an educated medical professional they would know better.

Felt great. "You're lucky any girl would die to be in your shoes to be with me" arrogant prick. Any dumb chick would.
 
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