[froovyjosie]

As an ENFP I tend to let standards slip a little in my personal space... when it gets a little too much 'organised chaos' for even me to handle, I'll go crazy and tidy it all up. However I'm back at home for the summer and my parents keep nagging me to tidy it up... even though it's in the 'inbetween' phase! I do actually want to tidy it but I'm not motivated enough to do it... every time they tell me to tidy up it makes me want to do it LESS. I also need to find a job but they keep telling me that I need to find a part-time job. I ALREADY KNOW THIS... every time they tell me it makes me want to not find a job.

I dunno, when people tell me to do things it makes me want to do the opposite.. haha. Is this a rebellious ENFP streak? Or am I just being annoying? Do you guys also feel this way?

[Tulipgarden]

Maybe your parents are too naggy. I always wanted to do opposite of what my parents asked me to do. Now if my Dad says it then I listen more but if my mother says it then it always sounds awful. lol!

My parents aren't too naggy, though. And given the space that I need then I figure out on my own what I need to do. Although, one time I did get divorced and didn't tell them for two years because I didn't want to hear their opinions or have them telling me what to do. Sometimes, I just don't share things with them because I don't want them butting in and I am 38 years old. :)

[Alysaria]

As an ENFP I tend to let standards slip a little in my personal space... when it gets a little too much 'organised chaos' for even me to handle, I'll go crazy and tidy it all up. However I'm back at home for the summer and my parents keep nagging me to tidy it up... even though it's in the 'inbetween' phase! I do actually want to tidy it but I'm not motivated enough to do it... every time they tell me to tidy up it makes me want to do it LESS. I also need to find a job but they keep telling me that I need to find a part-time job. I ALREADY KNOW THIS... every time they tell me it makes me want to not find a job.

I dunno, when people tell me to do things it makes me want to do the opposite.. haha. Is this a rebellious ENFP streak? Or am I just being annoying? Do you guys also feel this way?

I feel you. XD I actually had to make it into a game to make myself able to clean up when I was getting nagged about it. Ninja cleaning. >.> When no one was home, it was like Mission Impossible style speed cleaning. So it would be magically done the next time someone came to nag me about it.

I think the biggest asset of being an ENFP is perspective. :) Change how to look at a problem and make it into a fun solution.

[Tridentus]

I relate to this so much you wouldn't believe- I think you touched my soul a little bit, just gently poked it, you know, casually brushed it.

At uni I'm perfectly able to take care of myself, I have my own way of doing things and i like it that way, but at home it's as if my mother seem to think I have no capacity to recognize mess and that i simply am oblivious- it's just the way i like things, i know where everything goes and i know when i'm ready to clean it, and yet she gets defensive when i ask where everything is because i can't find it after she ninjas it into my room and cleans it without asking.

Your second point too- I had that around christmas, where i was going to find a part-time job at some point, and yet my mother in her not so subtle way would bring it up at every occasion, in the end i got a job but only about a month after she stopped mentioning it because i had no desire to do it after she reminded me. Going to the gym is another biggie- i'm a guy, i'm at uni, of course i want to get into the gym and get in shape, however whenever she'd mention it, even when i was deciding to go that very day, i would lose all motivation and just not go. don't even get me started on exam revision.

It's pretty obvious that it's at least partly out of a desire to resist control, as ridiculous as that sounds, and whenever someone close to me nags me it feels like they're quietly whispering "i have no faith in you...". I'm a pretty conscientious person in my own way, and despite appearances i do pay attention to things. Also, a part of nagging, particularly from parents is to protect the person from making mistakes or letting things slip- and i disagree with this on principle, i think a person (particularly at my age) should make their own mistakes, and learn from it, all the maturing and learning i've done has come from my own misdemeanours and mistakes, whilst i've learnt nothing from someone pestering me to irritation about something i already know.

[Pucca]

I do actually want to tidy it but I'm not motivated enough to do it... every time they tell me to tidy up it makes me want to do it LESS. I also need to find a job but they keep telling me that I need to find a part-time job. I ALREADY KNOW THIS... every time they tell me it makes me want to not find a job.

I dunno, when people tell me to do things it makes me want to do the opposite.. haha. Is this a rebellious ENFP streak? Or am I just being annoying? Do you guys also feel this way?

Oh yes! The best way to make me give up or dig my heels in is to bother me about something I ALREADY KNOW!!
Believe me, I know better than anyone else what I need to get done. Once I get around to it, I will knock it out in no time flat. But harassing me will only make me dislike the task more and resent your interference.

Going to the gym is another biggie- i'm a guy, i'm at uni, of course i want to get into the gym and get in shape, however whenever she'd mention it, even when i was deciding to go that very day, i would lose all motivation and just not go.

It's pretty obvious that it's at least partly out of a desire to resist control, as ridiculous as that sounds, and whenever someone close to me nags me it feels like they're quietly whispering "i have no faith in you...". i've learnt nothing from someone pestering me to irritation about something i already know.

Yes!! I stopped telling my SO that I wanted to exercise because he would "remind" me or "question" me about whether I was going that particular day. It made me so mad!! It's like, "Hey, I determined to do this on my own. I'm doing it for myself. I don't need you to tell me when/how to do it!!"
It's like they take something I may want to do or may be in the mood to do and turn it into this horrible obligation that I have to do or I'm a failure as a human being.