This is a thread that i realise has come up a lot, however i've disagreed with the angle with which most of them have been posted, so i decided to thread my own opinion.
There's been so much said about masculine and feminine traits, but i think any ENFP male worth his salt should realise the myth behind that. There's this idea bandied around that guys who are sensitive are somehow displaying feminine qualities, and somehow that is bad. that's bollocks.
I've seen guys who were incredible sensitive, compassionate, morally strong souls hit their late teens and become fake, cocky and obnoxious because of a misguided belief that they should act more "masculine" (in my own life). I believe that is so wrong- a male ENFP needs to embrace their compassion in order to fulfill their potential, in fact a lot of notions of qualities that are "masculine" aren't good qualities- for example, men tend to be less emotionally mature than women, that's just a fact, and yet i've seen people (enfps, sometimes) avoid their natural tendency in this area to act like tw*ts instead just to fit in with their buddies. I also see the threads on this very forum, which the feelings in my stomach reject fiercely- particularly in a belief that women are not attracted to an individual because they display "feminine" qualities.
From my experience, what women see as masculine qualities, and what is written down on some sites are completely different things. any good quality in a guy will be seen as a masculine trait by many women, any quality displayed by "most guys", good or bad, will be seen as masculine in popular belief- if a guy is compassionate, emotionally mature, and morally strong a lot of women will find that very masculine.. if a guy is nice covering insecurity, needy, indecisive and overly sensitive, that is something that individual needs to sort out in themselves, and you can hardly blame women for deciding those are feminine traits.
There's been so much said about masculine and feminine traits, but i think any ENFP male worth his salt should realise the myth behind that. There's this idea bandied around that guys who are sensitive are somehow displaying feminine qualities, and somehow that is bad. that's bollocks.
I've seen guys who were incredible sensitive, compassionate, morally strong souls hit their late teens and become fake, cocky and obnoxious because of a misguided belief that they should act more "masculine" (in my own life). I believe that is so wrong- a male ENFP needs to embrace their compassion in order to fulfill their potential, in fact a lot of notions of qualities that are "masculine" aren't good qualities- for example, men tend to be less emotionally mature than women, that's just a fact, and yet i've seen people (enfps, sometimes) avoid their natural tendency in this area to act like tw*ts instead just to fit in with their buddies. I also see the threads on this very forum, which the feelings in my stomach reject fiercely- particularly in a belief that women are not attracted to an individual because they display "feminine" qualities.
From my experience, what women see as masculine qualities, and what is written down on some sites are completely different things. any good quality in a guy will be seen as a masculine trait by many women, any quality displayed by "most guys", good or bad, will be seen as masculine in popular belief- if a guy is compassionate, emotionally mature, and morally strong a lot of women will find that very masculine.. if a guy is nice covering insecurity, needy, indecisive and overly sensitive, that is something that individual needs to sort out in themselves, and you can hardly blame women for deciding those are feminine traits.