[Moby]

So PerC is running a poll right now on it's main page about "Who is your best friend" and unless I misread the numbers (I am drinking) we're in a small lead...Out of all the types!

Anyone SLIGHTLY surprised by this? It's been brought up a few times here, and I've read in the literature, that people seem to really love us. But they get put off by our lack of ability to focus solely on them, as we seem to go out and chase a new interesting person when we get the chance. Kind of, well, not a best friend thing to do. I'm certainly guilty of that to a degree. I tend to be the one getting called with a "Hey...We haven't hung out in awhile? We cool? Let's chill." But I very rarely make that call myself.

So here I am trying to think why we're leading that poll? Any ideas? I might put my 2 cents in later.

[nádej]

I've been drinking too, so I don't know how thoughtful or valid this comment actually is, but:

I think that in general we are pretty good at maintaining friendships. Like, once we're in, we're really in. It's true for me, it's true for my ENFP sister, and it's true for the two 'real life' ENFP friends I have. I think that alone can have us ending up as the 'best friend' because we end up the one who has been around the longest and has held on despite transitions in life.

[saffron]

Yeah I saw that as well and it gave me pause since I know that I fall into that stereotype of sporadic attention to friends or anything for that matter.

I do have lifelong friends though. If I had to guess as to why they would rate me as a potential best friend I would guess that it's because I'm unlikely to judge them and that I get who they are and accept and embrace it. Hopefully they feel like they can be their complete selves around me. And even if we don't hang out constantly it's quality time that's either involving some deeper conversation about our lives or laughing our asses off making fun of ourselves and all of the other human fools.

[Tridentus]

i'd like to think i make a pretty loyal friend- while i tend to be flaky like many ENFPs, i know in my head who i consider to be a close friend, and those friends get my undying loyalty.. even if i don't turn up for eeevery event because i'm busy with other people :/. the honest truth is, if someone who was a close friend said to me "you should spend more time with me/us instead of bunking off with other people, or you'll lose me/us" i'd say ok in a heartbeat (although that's a sort of paradox because someone who'd say that would never get in in the first place), similarly if a close friend ever needs my support i'm there in a heartbeat..

with my best friend from school, i was often hanging out with different people and wouldn't see him from time to time, i knew he hung out with different people too so it didn't really matter- one occasion i hadn't seen him in weeks, he called me saying he'd fought with his parents, etc. i dropped everything and went to meet him- that kind of stuff i feel very strongly about. actually makes me a little emotional just thinking about it, loyalty to true friends is MASSIVE to me.

[Paycen McGahey]

ENFPs are probably the easiest person to be friends with. It typically doesn't take us a lot to have a good time.

I'm not sure if it's just me. . . but it seems ENFPs are typically fairly generous as well. We will do our best to make sure the people around us are happy.

[SocioApathetic]

I'm really surprised that INTJs are running a close third.

Wait. No, I'm not actually surprised. We're amazing.

ENFPs and INFPs:

[HollyGolightly]

Because ENFPs are rays of sunshine!! <3

[Ace Face]

First off, mistypes...

Secondly, I think people feel close to us even when we don't feel as close to them. That's how it is for me in real life at least. I'm openly warm and friendly, and who doesn't crave that type of treatment?

[liza_200]

First of all, I've never confronted/met any intuitive in my real life except my sister. So Idk how will I go with the Ns in general. My experience was basically with the ESFPs, ESFJs, ESTJ (online) and ISFP, and others were not so close.
I was very much dedicated and loyal to my first ESTJ crush, so was he. But unfortunately, we both were too young back then, he was kinda immature, and I was more eccentric. So ultimately it didn't work. Others felt close to me but I didn't. Most of them commented that I'm eccentric and moody.

[The King Of Dreams]

For the most part all of my close friends from high school are STILL my close friends. I'm just sayin.....